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The fact is, both spouses can act like they did when they were engaged, i.e., both can continue to emotionally seduce each other through the same type of emotional foreplay in which they engaged while dating. In my recent article here on YourTango, I said, "Dating is to marriage what foreplay is to sex." When we are dating and engaged, we intuitively understand that if we want this amazing person to love and want us, that we need to engage in everyday emotional foreplay. Unfortunately, we subconsciously think that just as foreplay is no longer necessary once sex has occurred, emotional foreplay is no longer necessary once we've sealed the deal with wedding rings and courtship has been successful. Successful relationships (such as the one you and your husband have) result when both partners continue the emotional seduction because they understand that marriage is not irrevocable but is a choice we make every day. If we want our partner to continue to choose to be with us, we need to do the things that support that choice. You are right, BookMama, that it's impossible to sustain the level of excitement we experience when dating (in part because so much of that feeling is induced by hormones our brain secretes only in the beginning of our relationship) but that we can indeed experience a far more profound and lasting love. When both partners remember to do those things that make each other feel cherished, loved, and supported (what I call emotional foreplay), the relationship flourishes. No matter what, we all make mistakes because, as you've so accurately pointed out, we are less than perfect. You can read my article here: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/shela-dean/how-seduce-your-partner-every-day
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It's easy for con men to con people who are trusting and honest. Lie about having cancer!?!! Really???? Who would do that? We learn from all our relationships (or at least we should) but some lessons are "bigger" than others. Susan, thanks for sharing your experience. I'm certain it will help others learn from you and avoid learning the hard way.
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I suppose it's human nature to want to couple up with someone as physically attractive as possible. But I'd sure like to see people value inner-beauty more and outer beauty less. One of the most passionate relationships I ever had was with a man I initially found unattractive. But after getting to know him, see how smart, clever, and funny he is, I couldn't get enough of him. The relationship ended but it was because our timing was off, not our chemistry.
One of the major impediments to civil discourse (with emphasis on civil) and discussion that can educate everyone involved is making differences of opinion matters of right and wrong. Somewhere in your diatribe you may have made some valid points and you had the opportunity to open the door to intelligent discussion. But your personal attack on Ms. Johnson is inappropriate. You are entitled to your opinions and points of view. You may even be entitled to express them in such a hateful way but no one is listening as a result.
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