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3 Darned Good Reasons to Publicly Display Your Affection

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3 Darned Good Reasons to Publicly Display Your Affection

As Tom Cruise demonstrated, affection can be publicly displayed without touching and even when your sweetheart is nowhere to be seen:

Send flowers.
Display your sweetheart’s picture in your office.
Shout for joy when he slides into home base.
Wink at your sweetheart from across a crowded room.
Brag about your honey’s promotion.
Refill her wine glass at a dinner party.
Remain charming at his corporate event, no matter how boring it may be.
Send a fax with an arrow-pierced heart and your initials in the middle.

Opportunities for PDAs are limitless but what out for Reverse PDAs. Remember Phil and Sherry? If, instead of putting his arm around Sherry’s shoulder, Phil took a small step away from Sherry, he would have delivered a completely different message to both Sherry and the ex. That’s called a Reverse Public Display of Affection.

Reverse PDAs include:

Publicly criticizing your sweetheart.
Teasing or humor that makes your sweetie the butt of the joke or an object of ridicule.
Correcting or interrupting your sweetheart in public.
Getting drunk at his holiday office party or family gathering.
Flirting with her friends.
Failure to show your sweetie common courtesy.

Reverse PDAs add the insult of public humiliation to the injury of hurt. And they undermine your sweetheart’s self-respect and self-esteem.

Your relationship is visible to the world. Because it is a fact of human nature that we filter how we feel about ourselves through how others treat us, you are giving your sweetheart a priceless gift when your behavior makes your sweetheart feel the love and supports his or her self-esteem and self-respect.

Doing it publicly is the shiny ribbon on the package.

Shela Dean
Relationship Coach, Speaker & Author of Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy
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