3 Darned Good Reasons to Publicly Display Your Affection


3 Darned Good Reasons to Publicly Display Your Affection

Remember when Tom Cruise jumped on Oprah’s couch and proclaimed undying love for Katie Holmes? He took a lot of media heat for that (and a lot of people did the eye-roll thing) but odds are good that Tom got a whopping big bunch of points (or what I call Frequent Foreplay Miles) from Ms. Katie and, after all, isn’t that what really counts?

You’re not likely to find yourself on Oprah’s stage. But, like Tom, there are three good reasons why you should (appropriately, please) publicly display your affection for your sweetheart.


Number 1: PDAs announce to the world that you're a couple. They tell others to back off . . . you're taken.

Number 2: PDAs reinforce your mutual love, support, and loyalty.

Number 3: Most importantly, PDAs provide public validation of lovability.

When your honey curls an arm around your waist as you walk down the street, it’s like wearing a sandwich board that says, “Hey, look everybody! I’m loveable!” This bolsters your self-esteem and self-respect. Is there a better gift than that? I don’t think so.

PDAs don’t have to be Tom Cruise big and bold. A subtle gesture can be the most eloquent. For example, when Phil and Sherry, newly dating, unexpectedly came face-to-face with Phil’s ex-wife at a party, Phil calmly introduced Sherry to his former wife, put his arm around Sherry’s shoulder and then left it there until long after the ex had moved on. Phil delivered exactly the right message to both Sherry and his ex.

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