The One Step You Can Take to Find True Love

By Sheila Paxton. Posted on Jan 23rd 2013.

All the dating advice in the world isn't effective until you've looked at your past relationships.

If you’re frustrated with the dating scene because you can’t find true love, it’s time to date differently.

You could try a different online dating service, you could try going on different types of dates and you could try different Meetup groups.

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The most effective strategy for making a meaningful change in your dating however, starts with an in-depth look at each and every one of your past serious relationships. By the time you’re done, you’ll have a new roadmap for what you’re looking for and what to avoid.

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To find out how to do this activity on your own read The Key To Finding True Love Is In Your Past.

Sheila Paxton is a master coach and founder of Fit4love, the dating coaching program designed to help singles find the love they're looking for. Get all Sheila's dating tips by following RUFit4love on Twitter.

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