What all of this means is that our actions are no longer "our" actions once we are under the influence of being "in love," we are under the influence of the side effect of a chemical process occurring within the body. This chemical process occurs for one reason and one reason only, to maintain the existence of human life. If man and woman did not have this chemical process occurring within them, the human race would soon become extinct because the desire to mate would cease. According To Shay Williams-Garrett, author and relationship expert, "You may think that your decisions, while being drunk off of the "in love" feeling, are your own, however, they are not and often times these decisions are not the same decision you would have made once the euphoria wares off." According to Marazziti's study, the "in love" euphoria subsides on average after two years.
The good news is that real love does exist but it is not experienced overnight. The development of true love takes time and it is not until real love enters the relationship and not it's look-alike cousin "infatuation," that one should make any major decisions with one's life, especially getting married. For some, the romantic feelings of being in love wears off within 9 months, for some it takes many years. When true love shows up it is a choice that is consciously made and you make a commitment to love this person in spite of their "unlovable" side.
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You may even want to leave that person because of the undesirable things you see in them but you stay, not because you are "addicted" to them, but because over all this person brings out the best in you, they are a great person to start a life with and you, in your right mind, know that you can not imagine spending the rest of your life without them. You would have seen the good and the bad and still chosen to love them instead of seeing their bad and acting like it doesn't exist. Only when this happens should you say, "I do," because at that moment a marriage now has a chance of thriving and withstanding the test of time.