At the risk of sounding like I’m going back to caveman times, the secret of a true sizzler is when a man is in his masculine and a woman is in her feminine (your "core energy"). Relationships are like batteries....if you put them into a TV remote control the wrong way around, they are NOT going to work. They need that spark! For the men, this means not being afraid of taking charge and taking care of your lady. For the ladies, don't be afraid of using your femininity; we all know how to do it, but don't do it often enough. Trust me, your man will love it!
My favourite example of this in action is the old movie “Working Girl”. You can watch its trailer here:
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Melanie Griffiths is the classic feminine woman, not afraid to look and act like a woman whilst also being very smart. In the end, she gets the man too, unlike her competition Sigourney Weaver who plays the classic “masculine woman”, who ultimately just isn’t that attractive with the super male energy that she projects.
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As controversial as this might be to some (and trust me - it was to me too when I first discovered this!) there is NOTHING that will set of the spark more. It works even in business; somehow acting in your core energy is very attractive to clients, and the opposite sex - even if you don't want to date them!
So use your natural masculinity or femininity for that INSTANT added attraction factor. No matter who the audience is, they LOVE seeing a man or woman comfortable in their core energy, so embrace it as much as you can!
If you want to discover how to live in your core energy, and do my free quiz as to which energy you are in at the moment, you can download my free ebook at www.howtobecaptivating.com for a little helping hand.