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6 Best BDSM Websites For People With Kinks And Fetishes

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Are you new to BDSM? The term refers to bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism.

While it includes a wide range of kinky interpersonal activities, BDSM falls into 3 main categories. These are B&D (bondage and discipline), D&S (dominion and submission) and S&M (sadism and masochism).

BDSM activities and experiences are physical and psychological. The physical ones entail bondage, sexual intercourse, caning, spanking, whipping, and other forms of punishments. Psychological aspects of BDSM are emotional responses to physical touch.

A number of BDSM activities are light and humorous while others are highly risky, serious and gross. You don’t have to be a person who has experienced some form of abuse earlier in your life to enjoy BDSM.

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To try it out, learn the best BDSM sex websites for people who are interested in BDSM, but we simplified your search by listing the top 6 BDSM websites that are ideal for beginners. Here they are:

1. FetLife.com

To practice BDSM, you need a partner with similar interests and goals. FetLife is one of the few websites that offer you an opportunity to find a like-minded partner. It is a social networking website that is specifically designed for the BDSM and fetish community.

The site gives you a free opportunity to meet real BDSM enthusiasts who share the same taste for sexuality. No matter your sexual orientation, you can join FetLife. You only need to be eighteen years and over.

Offering an idiot-proof, intuitive and lovely platform with all the tools you need to meet new people, FetLife is a nice site for beginners. This adult dating service is meant for those who accept bondage in bed, corporal punishment and intense and rough love making.

If you are into eroticism and aggressive sex life, here is where you can find someone who can dominate you. FetLife is an excellent dating website with webcam chat options, Instant Messaging, and email. The site has both genders in big numbers and excellent features.

2. Alt.com

This is one of the best and largest websites for BDSM and fetish dating. ALT’s most admirable thing is numbers. Run by FriendFinder, a mammoth network, Alt.com is believable and safe. If you are searching for women with BDSM interests, this is where you can find them in large numbers.

Alt.com is the best source of fantastic kinky dates. Just like Fetlife.com, Alt has a lot of great features and a user-friendly user interface. According to current and past users, Alt is a whole lot of fun and its community is super active.

In addition to their emails getting read, these users got the exact responses they desired. As a beginner, you need to sign up for free and meet your first BDSM partner.

You need to be a classy member of Alt.com, though. In other words, don’t try to be rude or insensitive when trying to connect with a female. As you meet new people, you will start learning the terms and words that are acceptable in the fetish and bondage culture.

 

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3. Extremerestraints.com

One of the oldest adult toy sellers, XR, LLC is a worldwide merchant. It was founded about seventeen years ago and runs a website called Extreme Restraints. The store offers satisfaction Guarantee to its customers on its full line of adult toys. Thus, XR is a safe and reliable web store for a first-time buyer. 

Additionally, the website boasts a very active customer service and phone numbers for U.S.-based customers and international shoppers. 

If placing your order online, you can do it any day of the week. There are reps to help you through out the day and night.

Extreme Restraints sells basic types of bondage toys. These include things like bondage furniture, spread bars, wrist and ankle restraints, blindfolds, collars, hoods and muzzles, dungeon irons, sleep sacks, and suspension equipment among others.

4. Babeland.com

This store was founded in 1993 on Capitol Hill by Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah. It has been of big help to the BDSM and fetish community. Babeland leads others in welcoming boldness and positivity toward sexuality.

The company has 3 stores in New York City plus a flagship store in Seattle. It sells its different adult toys on Babeland.com.

Originally named Toys in Babeland, the store was designed for both sexes and was open to people of different sexual orientations. It was a place where sexual health and pleasure could be found. It is now 24 years since Babeland was launched and the trend has been an upward one.

This is a nice online store for a BDSM beginner who aims to find a variety of adult toys for sale.

 

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5. Wasteland.com

Wasteland.com is one of the best websites for people who are interested in BDSM. It is the internet’s biggest BDSM collection of countless high definition and original BDSM videos and films.

Wasteland.com offers full-length videos and movies, unlike similar websites. It happens to be a great hub for beginners as they can watch videos and learn a lot from them. Its Exclusive High-Definition in-house movies can be downloaded in six different formats.

The site also provides high-resolution photos and has a large online community that shares their BDSM tips and knowledge.

Wasteland is your leading BDSM and Fetish movie site if you are a novice. Some of the site’s community members participate in the movies you will view when you join.

The site puts your safety in front of everything else. It clearly asks its members to avoid practicing anything they view in the movies without first learning how to do it safely. It has been around since 1994, another reason why you should trust it.

With over 1,500 erotic BDSM movies and bondage films, you surely cannot get bored here.

6. Desertdominion.org

Desert Dominion is a lifestyle organization based in Tucson, South Arizona. It is a company that recognizes pan-fetish and pansexual way of life. Desert Dominion accepts anyone who is 18 years of age and older and is interested in trying kinky stuff between consenting adults.

Additionally, Desert Dominion invites mostly those who are new to the scene or are just curious about BDSM and other alternative lifestyles. Once you join the site, you will get a chance to learn, socialize, meet people and attend events.

Desert Dominion has the best tutorials, educational seminars, hands-on training groups, discussion groups, play parties and lessons for beginners.

If you are interested in learning and practicing BDSM, feel free to join all the five best websites.

Shawn Yale is a voice for the voiceless in the LGBTQIA community and has been writing for over a decade on topics related to the successes, suppression, and insecurities faced by the community.
 
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