Thoughts to consider when compromising and when to call it quits.
Every relationship needs a fair share of adjusting and compromising by both partners. In this column, I would like to explore some guidelines and boundaries on this tendency to compromise. How much is too much compromise, and when/how do you know that it is time to voice your concerns and discuss the issue at hand openly and honestly and at what time you should just end the relationship.
Compromising is an important aspect of every relationship. It ought not be the same person who is always compromising, nor should it be that only one person does all of the compromising. On any given discussion, both parties must be willing to compromise. If not, the one person who does the compromising shall begin to have resentment. Resentment builds up over time until there is no fixing a relationship. Thus, it is highly important that both people bend when a compromise is needed.
We all have our limits and hopefully, boundaries. We all experience heartache when an agreement is made, and then, broken. It doesn’t really matter what the reasoning was behind breaking an agreement, only that the agreement was null and void due to his actions. When this occurs, it is important to discuss what happened and if the agreement requires some adjustments. It is also important at this time to emphasize that when an agreement is no longer working for either of you that a discussion and modification of the agreement needs to occur. If either party cannot or is not willing to accept the new agreement, or you cannot agree to disagree, then it is time to go separate ways. As long as there is good, clear and frequent communication, stay with the partner.