The perfectionism or the overrated expectations on yourself might be blocking you.
Among so many articles about work life balance, this one in HBR, the Imperfect balance between work and life caught my attention today.
The main idea is
1. Pick few things that really need your focus
2. Delegate or let go others, and
3. Most importantly, embrace imperfection.
The author found that one major hurdle for achieving work life balance is artificial images of perfection. She also points to the fact that, sometimes what is assumed to constitute perfection can be counter-productive. For example, keeping babies always in a sterile environment would make them less adaptable to the real world or delaying a product release would risk losing the market timing or valuable customer feedback.
Now here is the catch. Not many actually know that they are suffering from perfectionism. In their mind they are barely keeping up with their responsibilities. In my class a participant realized that she wanted to be as good as at least five other of her friends who were good at one thing or the other:). In another case my client was obsessing for perfectionism because he was too afraid to "fail".
Find what is that assumption making you the prisoner of your own "perfectionism". Work-Life balance could be much easier to find than you imagined. For me the article came very handy for me as my visiting parents have been asking why I don’t do any gardening in my big barren backyard!