Crying for more time? The real reason could be lack of motivation or the right planning.
“I don’t have the time”, “Some people seem to have lots of time in their hands”, “I could have used the time for something more useful”, “Let me check on Facebook/Internet/email before I finish my own work”.
Do these thoughts sound familiar to you? Thought so. These are some of the permanent residents in my head. I understand there are real busy days for all of us and you could use some advice from real celebrities. But even those days when I don’t have too many things to do I get these thoughts. I noticed I get these more when
- I don’t have anything engaging for me that day
- The work I wanted to do needs lots of creative/deep/hard thinking
- For the task at hand, no immediate reward/consequence is there or no direct connection with my long term goal is clear to me
- I am not at all interested in the task/activity or in the domain it belongs to
The bottom line?
- Having engaging activities is a “need” for us. Even if I have an hour of significant engagement it changes things very positively.
- Our brain, though is very smart, requires some discipline to do deep thinking (don’t blame the little kids only).
One of my clients was wishing to have more time so that he could do things he wanted to do. After some discussion, it came out that the feeling of “not enough time” was actually a cover up for his lack of idea on what he really wanted to do. Once he realized this it was very liberating for him, It allowed him to be more present to what he already had.
When we get all the requirements/tasks from the boss or others, it is a common tendency to "blame" them for the lack of time for us. A more effective approach could be to take a pause and force ourselves to be in that uncomfortable place of planning for the day. What is that I want to accomplish with my time today? If this seems impossible, then there is definitely something bigger underneath!