How To Last Longer In Bed Tonight (And Make Sure SHE Comes First)

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Here's how to stay in control without numbing yourself out.

So you want to know how to last longer in bed tonight?

Well, get excited because these techniques will not only have you lasting as long as you want, they’ll also skyrocket your woman's arousal and make her come a lot faster!

Give your girl a mind-blowing session of multiple penetration orgasms during sex tonight ... while lasting longer! Use these 3 tricks:

1. Use the Dip, Dip, Dive Technique


Think of your arousal on a scale of 1 to 10:

  • 1: You’re not aroused at all and sex is the last thing on your mind.
  • 2 to 5: You’re starting to get aroused but you’re not fully erect yet.
  • 5 to 8: You’re aroused, hard and could keep on thrusting as long as you want.
  • 9: You’re on the verge of orgasm but you can still keep it from happening if you stop thrusting immediately.
  • 10: You’re seconds away from orgasm and not even an asteroid heading right at you would stop it.

Men ejaculate prematurely when they enter a woman at a 7 or 8 and immediately start thrusting. This pushes their arousal up to a 9 and then 10, and they orgasm quickly. Instead of this, use the dip, dip dive technique. This keeps your arousal at a 7 or 8 so you can keep going all day long ... or as long as she can take it.

The first time you enter the woman you're with, enter only the tip of your penis, then pull out. You can rub or slap your tip against her clit or run it up and down between the edges of her lips. Then do it again. Give her just the head and pull out. Do this at least 9 times.

On the 10th stroke, go all the way in. You’ll feel MASSIVE to her, and you’ll keep your arousal at a level you can handle because you’re getting used to the sensation of being inside her before you start thrusting at a faster pace.

Now give her 8 shallow thrusts and 2 deep; then 7 and 3. Keep going until you give her 1 shallow and 9 deep thrusts. Now go back the other way.

She might beg you to stop teasing her; she might try pulling you into her deeper and faster. But, don’t give it to her. Keep dipping and diving to gain full control over your orgasm and the teasing will make her come a lot faster.

2. When in doubt, pull it out


When you're about to come, you start feeling a familiar tension in your groin and you can feel your orgasm coming.

Some guys think they can handle "just a bit more," so they keep going at the same pace. Other guys go all in and start pounding away at full speed, hoping and praying she comes before he does. 

It’s a common mistake that almost always leads to premature ejaculation.

Here’s the deal: NOTHING is stopping you from pulling out and going down on her… or using your favorite finger technique… or teasing her with your tip like you did when you were dipping and diving.

But, the next time you have sex, try this: Pull out of her the second you feel your arousal start to increase. Even if you know you can handle a bit more stimulation, pull out until you feel your arousal cool down.

The key here is to do this EVERY time your arousal starts to rise.

After a while, you’ll notice that you can handle a lot more pleasure before your arousal rises. Your subconscious starts to know that you can "save yourself" any time you need to by just pulling out and giving her some foreplay.

In fact, you might find yourself using this technique more because of how turned on your girl gets when you pull out and tease her a bit.

3. Make her come first ... with foreplay


The female orgasm is not as simple (or as easy to achieve) as it is for men. But, women do have one massive advantage when it comes to orgasms: once it happens, it can happen again, and again, and again.

The more a woman comes, the easier and faster the next ones come — and the more powerful! So penetrating her, give her multiple foreplay orgasms first — you’ll make her come a lot faster. 

Use your favorite oral technique to give her a clitoral orgasm. Once she comes, her clit will be too sensitive for another, so use your fingers to give her a g-spot orgasm. By that time, her clit will have "cooled down" and she’ll be ready for another (more intense) clitoral orgasm.

Give her that second oral orgasm and then go back to fingering her g-spot… but this time stop right before she comes. Pull your fingers out and finish the job with your Johnson.

If she doesn't orgasm before you feel your arousal rising, pull out and give her another foreplay orgasm while you cool back down again. You can do this as many times as it takes to guarantee that she has at least one penetration orgasm before you do.


If you want to learn all of the best ways to make sure she comes first every time, check out the 67 Ways To Make Her Come First.



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