How To Talk Dirty To A Woman (The Way SHE Wants To Hear It!)

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It's not about what you say, it's about the emotions you make her feel.

Hey stud,

I hope you’re excited because you’re about to learn how to dirty talk to your girlfriend in bed in a way that will make her wet and give her the most pleasure-packed sexual experience of her entire life!

What I’m about to share with you is not only the key to sexy and effective dirty talking, it’s also the single most important ingredient you need to make your girl come, and come, and come again.

The dirty talk examples you’re about to read are incredibly powerful, but before we get to them, you need to know one thing:

The words you say in bed don’t matter…


What does matter is how your words make her FEEL.

Here’s what I mean: Imagine you’re insanely horny right now. You might picture your girl giving you the best blow job of your life, and it’s making you so hard it hurts a little. Feel the pressure building in your groin. Feel the stiffness. Feel the sensations of her soft lips and moist tongue sliding up and down your shaft.

Now imagine being this horny … without a penis

Kinda weird to think about, isn’t it? My question to you is — how would you know you’re horny? How would you know you want to get it on if you have no erection guiding you into your woman's direction?

The answer is EMOTION.

Women feel arousal as EMOTIONS … not physical tension.


Sure, they also feel the physical sensations of arousal in their body … but the emotions she feels are much more intense. So if you want to turn your woman on and make her hot and heavy for you, use your words to make her FEEL SEXY EMOTIONS.

Use your words to take her away from feeling nervous, dirty, and like a piece of meat you just want to use to stick your meat in … and instead make her feel relaxed, sexy, and wanted.

Use dirty talk to transfer and evoke emotions.

Have you ever tried to read an erotic novel? It’s torture for men. Why? Because they’re written in a way that delivers emotions, not information. They’re written in a way that puts guys to sleep, yet fills a woman's mind with all the tiny details her arousal thrives on. 

Use your words to make your girl FEEL powerful emotions and she’ll go wild with lust and uncontrollable desire.

The 4 things your dirty talking should make her feel emotionally:

1. That she's feminine and free.


When you’re getting it on with your girl, she doesn’t want to think. She wants to get completely out of her mind and inside her body so she can FEEL pleasure. Help her do this by taking control and leading the interaction. When you lead and tell her what position to get into, what to say, or how to please you … she doesn’t have to think. She is free to feel.

She craves this, but will only let you take control when you demonstrate confidence and know how to give her pleasure. She needs to believe that submitting to your leadership will result in more pleasure for her than she would have if she took control herself.

Once you’ve built this trust, tell her what to do while you lead her to do it.

If she’s laying on her back and you want her to roll onto her stomach, tell her to do it WHILE you take her wrist and pull her to the other side. Also, tell her what to do and what you’re about to do. For example: “Get over here and lay on your stomach. I’m going to f*ck you from behind.” 

The key is to say it with certainty, clarity, and confidence. Since you’re telling her what to do because it’s going to lead to the most pleasure for her … there should be zero hesitation in your voice.

2. That she's insanely sexy.


Nothing makes a woman feel more sexual than the right type of compliment.

Most women battle with two main insecurities that prevent them from coming:

  • Insecurities about her body
  • Insecurities about her performance

Advertisers spends billions of dollars to convince women their bodies aren’t “good enough” without using their products AND society seems to get off on convincing women that they’re undesirable and “slutty” if they express their sexuality. These two forces create a lot of anxiety and repression in the bedroom. The right compliments alleviate these worries and free her to feel sexy and be sexual with you.

The key to compliments is to make them specific and believable.

Saying “Your ass looks great” is fine and it’s certainly better than not saying anything at all, but it’s very vague and wears off quickly. Instead try “Your ass looks so sexy when you bend over like that.” It’s only one extra detail, yet it makes your compliment much more believable ... and flattering.

Also make sure you compliment her performance. Another common insecurity many women have in bed comes from not knowing if their partner is enjoying what she’s doing. Why? Because most guys don’t say anything. 

Imagine going down on your girl and she just laid there like a dead fish, not making a single sound or barely moving. You probably wouldn’t feel too confident in your ability to please her, right?

Now imagine going down on a woman who keeps moaning, biting her lip, gripping the sheets and telling you how amazing you are at eating her out. It’s a completely different experience that you’ll want to have with her over and over again. So, compliment her body and skills and she will feel confident and orgasmic!

3. That she's wanted.


Here’s a dirty talking tip that works insanely well, yet most guys never use it — feel your arousal and describe it to her.

When guys come to me for advice on talking dirty, they usually just want some simple, sexy lines to remember and repeat in bed. They’re seeking the information. But you know better. You know that in order to turn your woman on and talk her into a state of multiple orgasms, you need to focus on the feelings. 

So, instead of thinking about what to say (the information), focus on what you’re feeling in your body … then describe it.

Forget the words, put all of your attention on your erection for a minute, feel it inside of her, enjoy it inside of her, own it inside of her, now describe how mind-blowing it feels.

So, you might expand on the previous example by turning: “Your ass looks so sexy when you bend over like that.” To: “Your ass looks so sexy when you bend over like that, you’re making me so f*cking hard right now.”

Describe how aroused she’s making you and it’ll amplify her arousal.

4. That she's loved.


I only recommend using this if you’re in a committed relationship or want to turn her into your girlfriend. If she’s a friend-with-benefits or you’re having a one-night stand, you’ll want to skip this one because it’ll create a deep connection that’ll send unfair mixed signals.

The way to make her feel loved with your dirty talk is to pepper sweet and loving words into your naughty phrases. Words like sweetie, baby, cute and soft work great.

Using our example phrase once again; “Your ass looks so sexy when you bend over like that, you’re making me so  f*cking hard right now.” You might turn it into “Baby, your cute little ass looks so sexy when you bend over like that, you make me so f*cking hard.”

See how those simple little words add an extra element of care and admiration.

Another way to make her feel more cared for and loved when talking dirty is to assume you know what she wants. So instead of saying “bend over I’m going to f*ck you from behind,” you might assume that’s what she wants by saying “Bend over. I know you want me to  f*ck you from behind, don’t you.”

Just remember to say it with confidence. Don’t ask her if she wants to. Phrase it as a question (IE: Don’t you?), but use the tone of a statement because after all, you know her so well (like only a boyfriend would) and you know that’s what she wants.

Got it?

Now that you know the best dirty talk strategies to say to your girlfriend in bed to make her wet and give her more powerful orgasms, you only need to apply the physical techniques that’ll bring it all together.


Watch the 67 ways to make her come video for more tips in bed.




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