Being a single gal presents its own unique set of challenges. No matter what your single situation may be, don't ever let the holidays get you down. Holidays are especially tricky when living single or some place new where you don't know anyone yet. Remind yourself that it is okay to be alone on the holidays (or hang out with other singles). It doesn't make you a loser or less of a woman. It just means you are a unique, independent woman who chooses not to settle for less than the best. So instead of letting the holidays make you feel lonely or unloved, start creating our own holiday traditions. No matter what the occasion, always celebrate yourself!
Here is how I spend my own holidays. Take some of my suggestions and make your own rituals!
Valentine's Day – Even though we choose to live as single women, we can't help but avoid Valentine's Day. We get bombarded with magazine articles, television advertisements, and radio announcers telling us we need to be coupled up to be happy and feel loved. In my opinion, Valentine's Day is a horrible holiday, created by companies that rake in millions convincing people to participate. It can make even the most confident single girl feel bad about herself for not having a date on this otherwise ridiculous holiday. Plus, if you have a man in your life, this shouldn't be the only time your guy showers you with attention. He should be doing it on a daily basis. So, if you need Valentine's Day for a man to prove his love to you, then you have other problems in your relationship. Valentine's Day will not fix it.
If I'm dating someone and they want to take me out, then I'm fine with that. However, if I'm not dating anyone, I choose not to celebrate Valentine's Day because I think it's such a silly holiday. But it's up to you to find out how you want to celebrate it, if at all. (Keep in mind that it is okay to skip it completely!) Maybe you choose to go out with your girlfriends for the evening. Or maybe have a sexy night in where you watch a sexy movie and cook for yourself. Whatever you do, make sure to create your own holiday so it makes you feel good about yourself. You can even do something for yourself every day leading up to V-day. One day buy yourself some flowers, chocolates, lingerie, take a bath, cook dinner, etc. Keep reading...
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