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Spend a Sexy Night In

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This article is for the single gal who enjoys living alone.

This article is for the single gal who enjoys living alone. You are an independent woman who celebrates her single status and doesn’t need a man to make life interesting. You are a self-sufficient woman of the millennium. You have your own place, you pay your own bills, and you are perfectly content with your life just the way it is. Every now and then, though, even the most confident single woman can trick herself into believing she is somehow inferior because she doesn’t have anything to do on a Friday night –or any other night of the week for that matter.

Just because you're staying in for the evening doesn't mean you have to feel sorry for yourself. You don’t need to go on a date with some cute guy or hang out with girlfriends to have a good time and enjoy the life you have worked so hard to create….and you sure as hell don't need to get all dressed up and sashay around town to feel sexy.

As a single woman living the naughty lifestyle, you can feel sexy all by yourself without a lot of preparation, planning or expense…. from the comfort of your own home, in your own glorious company. Remember, the naughty lifestyle is about you, yourself and you! It’s learning how to embrace your sexuality and meeting your own needs without the help of anyone else. It’s about enjoying yourself and your life as it is right now. Instead of waiting for a man –or your friends –to entertain you, keep you in good spirits, or give you something fun to do, you have to become completely reliant on yourself for these things.

If you haven’t done it in awhile, it’s time to spend a sexy night in. If you’ve never done it, you’re in for a treat. Following my simple suggestions guarantees an evening you won’t soon forget. Once you see what it’s all about, you will likely add this kind of solo sexy night to your usual routine. I recommend doing this once a week if you're known for going out a lot. If you're a homebody and naturally like to stay in, change things up a bit. Step out of your routine. If you are used to throwing on your sweats or lying around in flannel pajamas, do something different.

How to Make a Night of It

• If you’re able, plan ahead. Take time to clean and organize your home the day before or, better yet, splurge on having a maid service for the day. This way you won’t be distracted from your hedonistic activities by thoughts of laundry or dirty dishes.

• Take care of yourself by taking a bubble bath by candle light. Enjoy a glass of wine while you soak. Give yourself a mini facial by pulling out all your beauty products/masks and pampering yourself. Do the same with your body. Use some exfoliates and apply some nice-smelling lotion, etc. You can also give yourself a homemade mani or pedi!

• It's fine to wear comfortable clothing around your house, but tonight, why not step up your evening attire and make it sexy? Try wearing lingerie, a sexy teddy, boy shorts and a cami tank top, tight fitting yoga pants, or a sexy robe. The point is not to let yourself go just because you are home alone. You have to learn to feel comfortable in your own body before you will ever be comfortable in front of others. Plus, I notice that when I wear lingerie while I am alone, I'm more aware of my body and how it looks. This means I'm more likely to watch what I eat. If you hide in baggy clothes, especially during the winter months, it's easy to let yourself go without noticing it.

• Cook a gourmet dinner. Or, if you prefer take out, then make sure to dine using sexy plates. Don’t use paper plates or eat out of the containers provided by the restaurant. Treat yourself like you would treat a lover if you were trying to impress him. This is yet another example of how women let themselves go –they start thinking, “Who cares? It’s just me!” Exactly –it’s just you! You should always be the most important person in your life and you should always be on the lookout for ways to treat yourself.

• Enjoy a movie and relax on the couch. Sure, it’s fine to rent from Netflix or Blockbuster. I love a great romantic comedy just like the next girl. But, tonight, for your sexy night in, why not get a little naughty?! Rent an adult film and really heat things up. I have an entire list of naughty movies that I highly recommend. Just click here .

• Enjoy a naughty book while having dinner or listening to music. You can always curl up with a good read while relaxing outside on your patio or in front of your fireplace, too. Don't just plop yourself on the couch and dive into the book –be a little more thoughtful about this activity and make it a sexy experience. Do it in such a way that reading makes you feel sexy and glamorous. Get out some candles and try reading by candle light. Grab a luxurious blanket to lie on or wrap yourself in. Light some incense in a sexy scent. Some women feel a little uncomfortable reading naughty books, but I have a great list here . Don’t be bashful –remember; it’s your naughty night in. You can spend it doing whatever you desire!

• Finally, don’t go to sleep without the ultimate me-time activity: self-pleasure! You’ve spent all evening seducing yourself, now it’s time to cap off the evening with the big “O”. Get out your favorite toys and lube. Don’t rush the experience. Caress your whole body and tease your most sensitive areas until you are calling out your own name. Enjoy every exquisite moment leading up to your climax. Then roll over into a satisfied slumber knowing that you are the ultimate naughty girl and that you are loved by the most beautiful creature in the world: YOU!

The point of doing all of this is to make you feel sexy, all by yourself. You don't need to spend yet another night out with a bunch of drunk guys hitting on you. You don’t need to have a man by your side to make you feel special and have yourself for that!

Such things may seem insignificant, but these small gestures eventually lead to an overall sense of self-love and appreciation. Special evenings spent with yourself make you feel better inside and help boost your confidence. This is not only great for your general sense of well-being, but others will also notice your confidence. Men will find it sexy that you feel comfortable in your own skin and have no problem staying in on your own. And your girlfriends will want to know your secret!

Sienna Sinclaire ~ Naughty Los Angeles Sex & Dating Coach

This article was originally published at Naughty Lifestyle Guide. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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