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It's just a matter of knowing how to get the most from them

Men are great at getting themselves off with a few fast pulls here and there but slow down and enjoy the time with yourself. Your hands are the ultimate tools to offering up some mind-blowing climaxes. It's just a matter of knowing how to get the most from them because there's so much more to handjobs than just pumping at the speed of light.

So step things up a gear by experimenting with different types of lubes and toys, like a vibrating cock ring, to give yourself something a bit different. Even if you're just after an alternative masturbation experience, learning a couple of new techniques will make that all-important “me time” much more rewarding. Mastering the art of giving yourself head with a cock ring and/or a suitable lube, means you'll never think of handjobs as just a 'quick fix', ever again.

Health Benefits of Masturbating

• Prevents cancer - men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer.

• Makes you harder - Regular sex or masturbation works out your pelvic floor muscles to prevent erectile dysfunction and incontinence.

• Helps you last longer - Masturbating an hour or so before a date can help you to last longer.

• Improves immunity - Ejaculation increases levels of the hormone cortisol.

• Boosts Your Mood - Masturbating releases feel-good neurochemicals like dopamine and oxytocin that lift your spirits, boost your satisfaction, and activate the reward circuits in your brain.

Kegel Exercises For Men

Kegel exercises are also great for men and have many health benefits. They can help with strengthening the pelvic floor muscles which help with urine and fecal incontinence, treating prostate pain and swelling and inflammation of the prostate gland. Also, kegel exercises may help men with erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.

How to do Kegel exercises:

- Using Your PC Muscles:

Start by locating your PC muscles which you can do when urinating. When your flow begins, try to stop it completely. The muscle that you feel tightening is the PC muscle. If you still can’t find it then try inserting a lubricated finger into your anus and squeeze your finger. If you’re able to do this then you’ve found your PC muscle. Once you’ve found your PC muscles then contract, squeeze and hold them lightly for five seconds. Then release the muscle fully for another five seconds. Repeat ten times for three repetitions. Kegel exercises can be done anytime, anywhere and require no special equipment.

- Using Prostate Massager:

You can try a prostate massager to work out your PC muscles as it gives you something to squeeze so you can feel your muscles working. Also, this is great for those having problems finding their PC muscles. Start by squeezing the device and holding for five seconds then release for five seconds. You can also mix it up with ten quick squeezes. Repeat ten times for three repetitions.

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Supersize Your Cock

Most people think that penis pumps are only used by men who suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED), but there are many other benefits from using a pump. Even if you're the perfect stud, using a pump can make sex even better, for both guys and girls - it's just a question of knowing how to use one. They work by placing the pump over the penis and squeezing air into it, creating a vacuum. This vacuum causes a blood rush to the penis, and an instant erection. The cock ring at the base of the pump will then slide over the cock and maintain the erection, so you're good to go. Even if you have no problems achieving erection, the penis pump can make your cock temporarily bigger than usual, and it also makes you last longer during sex. Great for him, even better for her.

If you're masturbating, the penis pump creates instant erections so they're great if you don't have much time and are looking for a quick release. An added bonus, is that if you use a pump regularly, your body adapts to the increased blood rush, until eventually your cock will learn to do it on its own.

Penis Pumps are becoming an increasingly popular masturbation and sex aid. They come in all kinds of colors and are lightweight and easy to transport. You can even get travel versions, ideal for those business trips or night time cruises. Penis pumps are easy to clean and store, and even if you have a big cock already, there are XL pumps to make you even bigger.

Even if you're just tired from a long day at work, are under stress, or just want to get going as quickly as possible, a penis pump is one of the best ways of not only achieving an instant erection, but a bigger one, too. What's not to like?

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Rock Your Cock

Guys often neglect their cocks. A quick handjob or straight to the sex, they forget that their cocks are beautiful instruments of joy that need just as much attention as a pussy or ass. It's not just girls who like to be pampered and spoiled, so take time out this month to pay some serious attention to your own.

Below are some fabulous toys that celebrate everything great about your tool. Use them to pep up your masturbation sessions, or inject some va-va-voom into your sex life. You'll find a selection of great sex toys and lubes from my sex shop that'll enhance your masturbation experiences. If you can, try and find a little of that 'me' time every day this week, and try something different each time, mix it up a little bit. Schedule these sessions into your business planner like an appointment, or substitute your lunch time for play time. If that's not realistic, even just a couple of times a week will be enough to get back in touch with your inner self, because only when you find what really works for you, can you share those joys with others.

Masturbation Toys


This is my favorite lube out on the market. It's odorless and colorless, and is the perfect lube to use for some fantastic, long-lasting hand action whether you're using a cock ring or just want your hands to be able to go the extra mile. You don't need much to get things going so it's economical as well as effective.

Cooling Lube

Great for summer handjobs, cooling lube feels just fabulous when rubbed up and down a hot cock, either with or without a cock ring. Perfect for cooling things down, as you then begin to work things up, this is great for building stamina and also provides instant stimulation and freshness.

Warming Lube

For the hottest handjobs around, using a warming lube is ideal for use on super-sensitive cocks. Go nice and slow, and feel the heat literally rise in your hands as you work your partner (or yourself) to a steamy climax. Essential if using with a cock ring.

Vibrating Cock Massager

Cock rings are great little sex toys that don't have to be used just for intercourse. This one is great for handjobs, too, because it's quite chunky and is easy to get to grips with so you can work it the way you want to. Using your hand to guide the ring up and down a cock gives maximum control to the provider and the most intense pleasure to the receiver. With 3 speeds, it's also waterproof, so just perfect for bath time romping. Always use plenty of lube and experiment with which ones feel the best. Great hands, plus a cock ring, make for the ultimate handjob so get playing!

Screaming O Vibrating Cock Ring

All guys know their own penises, and cock rings are a great way to prolong masturbation times and enhance your orgasmic experience. Most cock rings fix to the base of the penis, and help men achieve not only a better, more solid erection, but they can also delay orgasm – just the thing for that ultimate climax. Vibrating cock rings, like these, also give variable pleasurable vibrations to your penis during both masturbation and sex with your partner, and can help you learn how to control when your orgasm arrives. Vibrating cock rings are a fantastic way for men to learn more about what their penises are truly capable of.


Beads are great for carrying with you on the go, and they add that extra dimension of stimulation when you're in the mood for masturbation. Beads are simply a bracelet of small balls that you place over your penis and rub up and down your shaft. The texture of the beads gets every single nerve ending in your penis working overtime, and they're waterproof, too, so great for self-pleasuring in the shower or bath.

Masturbation Sleaves

Sleeves are essentially a glove for your cock to slide into, providing padding between your hand and your penis as you masturbate. Many sleeves have beads embedded in them, either just at the base, or along the whole shaft, like this one, and are great for getting the whole penis worked up as you work it the traditional way. The sensation is intense, and because sleeves are very discreet, they're a popular sex toy for on-the-go masturbation, outside the home, when you need something quick and functional to satisfy you.

Pocket Pussies/Fleshlight

One of the most popular male sex toys on the market, pocket pussies are just that – vagina models usually made from soft silicone, designed to offer realistic penetrative sex simulation. They're great for men who want to fine-tune their performance, or for those who want to feel more confident about what they're doing, before heading back to the real thing. In other words, they're great 'practisers', and will benefit both guys in a relationship who want to make sure they're giving their partner the best in penetrative sex, and also those less-confident in the bedroom, who want to master the basics before testing their technique out for real.

Pop Rocks

For blow jobs with a difference, this oral sex candy will make your cock explode! For some of the most incredible fizzing, popping and tingling sensations on your cock, get your lover to pop some of this in their mouth before they go down on you. Not only do they get to feast on both your cock, and some great candy, but you'll be shooting for the stars in no time at all.

Sienna Sinclaire ~ Naughty Los Angeles Sex & Dating Coach

This article was originally published at Naughty Lifestyle Guide. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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