Love For The Single Girl


Love For The Single Girl
You don’t need a man to feel loved…love yourself!

I’m lucky enough to have a job that is also my hobby, but it’s important for me to do other things, too. If you don’t have a hobby at all, then you need to find one – something you love, or something you have no idea you’re going to love until you try it!
Everybody needs distractions in life, we need variety and we need stimulation. It doesn’t have to involve money, it can be anything. Drawing, painting, floristry, running, music, surfing, cooking, just anything that inspires you and makes you smile. You should incorporate your hobby into your ‘me-time’, and be utterly selfish about it. It should be something you want to do, not what your friends want to do or, worse, what your lover might want you to do. All too often, single girls will embark on a new relationship and then lose themselves in the life and hobbies of their new lover. All this will do is make you lose a little bit of yourself. Retaining your individuality, your personality, is the one thing that’s going to both sustain a relationship, and increase your own self-worth. By having interests that you own, you’ll keep your independence, and your power.


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8. Love your pets

It’s common for single girls to have pets. They’re company, they make us smile, and they give us unconditional love, which we return to them. Pets won’t stand you up, let you down, or make you ever doubt yourself. Next to family members, pets can be the most reliable, trustworthy things in your life. They’re also great for our health and wellbeing. Numerous studies have shown that people with pets are less prone to stress and anxiety, and are able to think more clearly and be more rational. The healing and spiritual powers that come through owning and looking after our pets, cannot be underestimated.


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9. Love your single life!

As mentioned, you have to learn to love being single, if you’re ever going to love being in a committed relationship. Inner happiness does not come from being with somebody and having somebody to love, it comes from loving yourself first. Being single is not tragic, it is not sad, it is not unfortunate or a backward step. Rather, it is a vital stepping stone to the next level of your life journey. Achieving contentment and happiness as a single girl, is a million times more important than grabbing the nearest guy just to fill a hole in your life. Because when that guy is gone, there will still be a hole. A confident and happy single girl does not have holes to fill, just extra space in her life closet.



To achieve happiness as a single girl, you’ve got to put yourself out there. Sign up for some salsa classes, join the local art group, go on a cooking course. Do something, to get back in touch with yourself and what you like to do. All the traditional ‘dating’ things, like going out for dinner, or catching a show, you should be comfortable doing for yourself, by yourself. Mingle and socialize with friends as much as you can, too, but don’t do it as a means to ‘finding someone’. Do it because you’re happy in your own company. And when you are that self-confident, it will show to everyone around you.


So don’t avoid Valentine’s Day, make an event of it instead. Your date is you, your loved one is you, and the person you’re going to spend all that money on, is you. You’re a lucky girl, and don’t let anyone tell you different.



- Sienna Sinclaire® – The Single Girl ®: Your Naughty Lifestyle Guide

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