But, just like friends, you may have family members that inject only negativity into your life. It’s true that ‘we can’t choose our family’, but you can choose whether to allow them to bring you down. Don’t be afraid to let somebody know that their presence in your life is not welcome anymore. If anything, you might find that they respect you more for it. The point is, you’re taking control of your life, learning to love yourself, and that means that sometimes you have make difficult decisions.
6. Love your job
Many people go to work because they have to. We all have bills to pay, commitments to fulfill, food to put on the table etc. But having a job that is also your hobby – like me – or one that you absolutely love is a blessing that should be celebrated.
If you don’t have a job that makes you smile every morning, then maybe it’s about time you found one that did. We spend most of our daylight hours working, so why should that time be wasted on something you’re not enjoying? Because if you’re loving what you do every day, then that’s not ‘work’, is it?
Of course this won’t happen overnight. So if there’s something you’ve always wanted to do, which might take training, further education or just good, old-fashioned time to attain, why not get something to put in your home that acts as a constant reminder of the goal you’re working towards? It might be a photograph of a faraway place you want to go and work in, or a picture of someone else doing the same job you’re after yourself. Whatever it is, you’ll need something to put around you to keep you focused on the path you’ve decided to take.
7. Love your hobbies
I’m lucky enough to have a job that is also my hobby, but it’s important for me to do other things, too. If you don’t have a hobby at all, then you need to find one – something you love, or something you have no idea you’re going to love until you try it!
Everybody needs distractions in life, we need variety and we need stimulation. It doesn’t have to involve money, it can be anything. Drawing, painting, floristry, running, music, surfing, cooking, just anything that inspires you and makes you smile. You should incorporate your hobby into your ‘me-time’, and be utterly selfish about it. It should be something you want to do, not what your friends want to do or, worse, what your lover might want you to do. All too often, single girls will embark on a new relationship and then lose themselves in the life and hobbies of their new lover. All this will do is make you lose a little bit of yourself. Retaining your individuality, your personality, is the one thing that’s going to both sustain a relationship, and increase your own self-worth. By having interests that you own, you’ll keep your independence, and your power.
8. Love your pets