Try and remember birthdays and other special occasions. Sending a card can mean the world to a loved one, but too many people these days either forget, or blame ‘hectic lifestyles’ for not bothering to remember. Absence doesn’t always make the heart grow fonder. If anything, it can make people feel neglected and ignored. As a single person, you should never forget how important your family are, as they’re the one constant in your life, whereas lovers come and go. Just as we need a best friend, we all need family to lean on sometimes, whether it’s as a shoulder to cry on, someone to sound off at, or someone to simply sit and listen when we need to talk. And when something good happens, it’s often a family member who you want to tell first, so treat them with the respect they deserve, and involve them in your life, even if it’s a short 5-min phone call every week, or a random postcard from wherever you happen to be. Knowing that someone is thinking about you, is one of the most special feelings in the world.
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But, just like friends, you may have family members that inject only negativity into your life. It’s true that ‘we can’t choose our family’, but you can choose whether to allow them to bring you down. Don’t be afraid to let somebody know that their presence in your life is not welcome anymore. If anything, you might find that they respect you more for it. The point is, you’re taking control of your life, learning to love yourself, and that means that sometimes you have make difficult decisions.
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6. Love your job
Many people go to work because they have to. We all have bills to pay, commitments to fulfill, food to put on the table etc. But having a job that is also your hobby – like me – or one that you absolutely love is a blessing that should be celebrated.
If you don’t have a job that makes you smile every morning, then maybe it’s about time you found one that did. We spend most of our daylight hours working, so why should that time be wasted on something you’re not enjoying? Because if you’re loving what you do every day, then that’s not ‘work’, is it?
Of course this won’t happen overnight. So if there’s something you’ve always wanted to do, which might take training, further education or just good, old-fashioned time to attain, why not get something to put in your home that acts as a constant reminder of the goal you’re working towards? It might be a photograph of a faraway place you want to go and work in, or a picture of someone else doing the same job you’re after yourself. Whatever it is, you’ll need something to put around you to keep you focused on the path you’ve decided to take.
7. Love your hobbies