And when it comes to clothes, only ever buy items that fit you and that you love to wear. Never buy anything that you tell yourself you’re going to ‘slim into’ – it’s false hope and the garment will never leave your closet. Be realistic. Don’t buy clothes that you fantasize about wearing, or that you think you ‘should’ be wearing. Know what looks good on you, what feels good, and show off what you have. Presenting a real image is vital. Your clothes should never be something you hide behind, they should be an extension of yourself, just like your home is. Even supermodels and celebrities can get insecure about their looks, it’s human nature, but all you have to do is get used to focusing on your gorgeous bits, and the other stuff fades quickly into the background.
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Set aside some time each day to pamper yourself. Build this into your daily beauty routine, make it normal, not just a treat, because you deserve to ‘treat’ yourself every day. It could be something small like a deep conditioning treatment for your hair, an inexpensive moisturizing cream, or just some deliciously scented shower gel. You have five senses, so try and use every one, from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to bed.
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And get into the habit of looking at yourself, and I mean really looking at yourself, every single day. Don’t just walk quickly past the mirror when you’re getting ready in the morning, or before you take a shower. Stand there and properly look at yourself, from top to toe. Examine every inch of your body, touch yourself, stroke yourself, admire yourself. You’ll be amazed how good it makes you feel to physically connect with own body, instead of leaving that pleasure to a lover. Why should they get all the fun?
Next time you’re in the shower, or taking the time out to soak in the bath, don’t be scared to indulge in some self-love. It’s the best way to get to know your own body, and to love it. There are lots of great sex toys out there, and you deserve to feel as much pleasure as possible. There’s nothing wrong with some self-satisfaction. In fact, it’s one of the most natural things in the world. Learning to love yourself, physically, can only ever be a good thing because it will increase your sexual confidence when you find yourself with a lover. There’s nothing sexier to a guy than a woman who knows her own body, and is confident showing it off. This may take time for some people, because a positive body image doesn’t just arrive overnight, especially if you’re not used to showing yourself off. But just get used to the fact that you’re amazing, and before long you’ll be walking with an extra spring in your step, which will not go unnoticed.
4. Love your friends