It’s the month of love, and with Valentine’s Day fast approaching, it’s easy for single girls to feel a bit left out. We may yearn to be in a loving relationship, especially around this time of year, but what many of us don’t realize, is that in order to find happiness as part of a couple, we need to first feel happy being single. Also, just because you don’t have a boyfriend right now, doesn’t mean you don’t have lots of love to give, whether it’s on a pet, a family member, or friends. Love isn’t exclusive to couples, it’s a free commodity that should be shared around as much as possible, especially on yourself.
Some girls are happy with their single status, for the moment, as they focus on work, etc. Others might be on the lookout for a relationship. Whatever your situation, being happy and settled in your own life, regardless of your relationship status, is the first step to guaranteeing a loving future with somebody else down the road. Give, and you shall receive.
Follow these tips about loving yourself and finding inner contentment, and open yourself up for love.
1. Love yourself first
In any relationship, it’s human nature to treat other people the way we treat ourselves. So if you don’t love yourself, then how do you expect anyone else to? We can only give out what’s inside of us in the first place, so this is where you need to start. You might already think that you love yourself – we all do, right? But how many of us actually put time aside for ourselves? When was the last time you bought yourself flowers, or lounged in a delicious bubble bath for a whole hour? Do you cook yourself nice meals, or do you save that luxury for when you’re entertaining other people? When was the last time you splashed out on something expensive, just because you wanted to, and didn’t feel guilty?
Looking after ourselves doesn’t just mean basic maintenance to get through the day, it means really lavishing quality time and effort on ourselves, from beauty routines and pampering, to spoiling ourselves with gifts and rewards, for no reason at all – because you are the reason. If you’re loving and kind to yourself, then that generosity and thoughtfulness will naturally transfer to a lover. Remember, never feel bad or guilty about giving yourself attention. It’s not self-indulgence, it’s not egotism and it’s not selfishness. It’s simply loving yourself, so quit worrying.
2. Love your home
Your home says as much about you as the way you look or the way you act. So it’s vital to love where you live, just as much as you should love yourself. We accumulate things in our lives that are connected to memories, both positive and negative, but you should make sure to get rid of anything in your home that does not make you feel good. Whether it’s photographs of an old lover, a decoration or piece of furniture, even the color of your walls. If there are things around your home that make you think bad thoughts, for whatever reason, then it’s time to make a change. Out with the old and in with the new. We spend too much time hanging on to things that make us feel unhappy. Nostalgia can be healthy, but the bad kind can block the flow of positive energy, both within yourself and around your home.
You must start thinking of your house as an extension of yourself. In just the same way as we might change our hairstyle, get a makeover, or buy some new clothes, so you must do the same with where you live. Only hang on to things that make you smile or evoke a pleasant memory, and get rid of everything else. Our minds are our very own photograph albums and diaries, and every microsecond – good and bad – is recorded in there, so it makes no sense to hold onto additional visual stimuli which is only going to enhance bad memories and dilute the good ones. It doesn’t mean you have to live in a glossy magazine photo-spread, it just means that you should make a point of surrounding yourself with images and items that make you feel good about yourself. You can even pick things that represent the girl you want to become…maybe more naughty in the bedroom with your lover? So why not try buying some erotic art, or painting your bedroom a deep, lush red color? Invest in some luxury bedding, sensual fragrant candles and lighting, and transform your home into something sultry, sexy and inviting.
3. Love your body
Few of us are 100% happy with how we look as there’s always something we’d like to change, whether it’s our hair, our boobs, our legs…whatever. Celebrity magazines and glossy TV shows can make us feel inadequate, and can sap at our self esteem, as we’re constantly being told what is and isn’t beautiful, as though physical beauty equates to your value in society. Well here’s some news – we are all different, and we are all beautiful. Right down to every lump, every bump, every imperfection. That’s what makes us all unique.
It’s time to quit finding fault with yourself and, instead, take a look in the mirror and really notice what’s beautiful about you. If you think you have nice eyes, then accentuate them with eye shadow and liner. Like your curvy hips and ass? Then flaunt them with some form-fitting clothing and show the guys what they’re missing. If you’re lucky enough to have a great neckline, then highlight it with some dazzling jewelry or a low cut V-neck.
And when it comes to clothes, only ever buy items that fit you and that you love to wear. Never buy anything that you tell yourself you’re going to ‘slim into’ – it’s false hope and the garment will never leave your closet. Be realistic. Don’t buy clothes that you fantasize about wearing, or that you think you
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