Reasons To Take A Break From Dating

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Reasons To Take A Break From Dating
Avoid the damage and drama of rebound relationships by taking time off to find out what you want.

Getting Over Someone By Getting Under Someone New: I was dating a guy that I was crazy about. We were in an open relationship for six glorious months when he decided it was time to end it because he wanted kids and marriage. Fair enough, he knew what he wanted. I had told him from the beginning that I didn’t want those things and was sane enough to know that. Although I liked him a lot, I wasn’t going to be happy with that sort of life. It hurt a lot, but I let him go.

After the break up, I went out on dates but it was obvious I wasn’t over him as I would mention him sometimes (which was very rude to the new person I was with). Then I did meet someone else, just a month after our breakup. We started dating, but now that I look back on us, the second guy was just a replacement for the first. I didn’t really like him that much, he was just someone to occupy space in my life left by the guy I was still pining over.

So six months later, I decided to take another break. I came to my senses and realized that I needed to be 100 percent over the first guy, before I could move on. I saw how unfair fair it is to the next person for reasons that I mentioned at the beginning of the article. The real cincher was when I put myself in my lover’s shoes: what if they weren’t over a girl and I knew it? Ouch!

If you’re someone who hasn’t taken a break from dating after each person (and I don’t mean a month or two), or someone who’s gotten out of a relationship and is still hurting from it but trying to move on by dating others, then you need a break. You need time to spend with yourself and fall in love with yourself, not another person. You don’t need someone to be happy. Learn to make yourself happy and anyone in your life will just be an extra plus.

Use this break as a time to think about what you’re really looking for in the next person, even if you’re into open relationships. And use this time to take care of yourself with a lot of me time. Check out my articles: 12 Ways To Get Over A Breakup and Love For the Single Girl

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