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From Breakup To Breakthrough: How To Mend A Broken Heart

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Are you ready to say goodbye?
12 unexpected tips that will ease the pain of your breakup.

9. Spring clean. Clear the clutter, girlfriend! Get rid of your ex by trashing any music that reminds you of him, gifts he gave you or any other miscellaneous items around the house associated with your relationship. Donate everything to your favorite charity. You will feel better knowing you gave to a good cause and you'll get a tax write-off! Get rid of any photos of your ex. If you can't bring yourself to do it, have a friend do it for you. Don't forget to de-clutter your virtual reality as well. Remove and untag photos of your ex from your social networking sites. Keep in mind, you can always stash everything in a box if you're not ready to give up on the notion that you might get back together. Ask someone to hide the box from you. In three months if you know you're not getting back together, toss the box and your ex out with the trash.

10. Staying friends with your ex. When your ex says "Let's be friends," you need to move on. There is no being friends. But there is a difference between being friends and being friendly. Being friends down the road is a possibility but only when you no longer have feelings for that person. So until that time comes forget about being friends with your ex.

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11. Join a dating website. Do this ONLY when you feel it’s time. Don't rush it. Post your profile online and see what happens. You don't have to go out on dates right away but it will feel good to know you're still wanted. Because you're fabulous, guys will be hitting on you in no time and it will be a real ego boost. This will certainly help with your confidence and make you realize you are desirable. You're a great catch! Plus, we all know the best way to get over a man is to get on top of a new one!

12. Learn from your breakup. Recognize this as an opportunity to learn a life lesson. You can transform this experience into one with a positive outcome. Take time to cater to yourself and fulfill your own needs for a while. Ask yourself some important questions to see if there are areas of your life that need attention. Why didn't the relationship work? Do you need to learn to be more responsible, more independent or more interesting? Maybe you need to focus on your career or work to get balance in some other area of your life? Take this sacred time to find out what you really want in your next relationship but do things you enjoy in the meantime. Partake in activities that will make you feel good about yourself. Go out and get a bold new look, change your hair color or buy yourself some new clothes. Make a commitment to exercise and get healthy. Get out and meet new people by joining a social club. Focus on how you can do better at your job. This is your chance to spring clean your soul, start over, rejuvenate yoursef and get ready to rock the world!

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