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How To Boost Your Oral Sex Confidence
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Here's how to have bulletproof confidence of your oral skills!

You’ve probably heard that confidence is key to giving a great blowjob, and it’s absolutely true.

But being totally confident is not always easy, especially if your guy has criticized your blowjobs in the past, or doesn’t give you the kind of feedback you need.

Here are 2 fun and easy ways to build a rock solid foundation of confidence that will make your oral sex skills the best he’s ever had:

1. Create and drawn on positive past experiences 


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One of the most common reasons we don’t feel confident doing something is because we remember (and dwell on) times in the past where we tried and failed. Or worse, we think we failed. We looked for all the reasons why we’re not good.

Maybe you focused on his lack of vocalization and thought he didn’t like your blowjob when in reality, maybe he’s just shy and was raised (like most males) to be quiet when getting sexual satisfaction.

If your past is filled with more negative experiences than positive, it can be really difficult to feel confident the next time you do it. In fact, just thinking about it can make you feel anxious and unsure of your skills.

So fill your mind with positive past experiences that make you feel optimistic and confident about doing it again. 

The human brain has a hard time distinguishing between something that actually happened and something we imagined in our mind. So one of the things I encourage women to do in the beginning of my "Blow His Mind Program" is to visualize using the techniques as soon as you learn them.

Right after you learn one of the techniques, close your eyes and imagine do it.

Imagine what he feels like against your lips. Imagine what he tastes like. Imagine feeling him twitch inside your mouth. Imagine him moaning and then telling you to "take it easy" cause you’re gonna make him blow.

The more vivid you make your visualization, the better. Not only does this create confidence, it also helps you remember the technique better.

Another key to visualizing is to make sure you also imagine overcoming struggles.

Sometimes you’re going try something new and it’s just not going to work as planned. You’ll try a new technique and he'll go soft. You’ll try a new "finishing move" and he just won't come.

Visualize these struggles and see yourself overcoming them. Picture yourself changing your technique and then see and feel him get rock hard while you make him come as quickly and easily as you want.

All of the greatest athletes in the world use visualization to solidify their confidence and those who do it best, also visualize overcoming struggles. So when you learn any new technique, visualize using it and create positive past experiences.

2. Distract your focus


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Until I mention it, you probably weren’t focusing on your breath or the temperature in the room.

Right now you’re reading this second way to build your blowjob confidence and until I mention it, you're no longer focused on the first.

The human mind cannot focus on many things at once.

So if you find yourself focusing on negative thoughts during a bj, distract yourself by putting all of your attention into a technique that’s going to make your head game A LOT better.

The foundation of the "Blow His Mind Program" is all about starting with "safe" techniques that almost all men like, and then making a few subtle changes that will teach you exactly what his preferences are.

Once you discover what they are, you can easily "fine-tune" your bj to match his preferences and be the best he's ever had, guaranteed!

When you do this, two things happen.

First, you learn how to be the best he’s ever had. Sweet! And second, you distract your brain from negative thoughts by focusing on the technique and his preferences.

Once you learn these preferences, you can instantly increase the pleasure he gets and distract your focus even more by amplifying his preferences.

For example, if you discover that he really goes crazy when you apply a lot of pressure from the bottom with your tongue, focus on how it feels to press your tongue up against him.

Because he loves it so much, you’re much more likely to get positive reactions from him which will only feed your mind with more confidence-boosting thoughts.

These two techniques used together create a cycle of exponentially rising confidence every time you go down on your guy.

Watch the Blow His Mind video now to learn secrets about giving blowjobs that most women will never know!

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