Men, Beware! The New Trend Of Rinsing Will RUIN Your Love Life


A couple of weeks ago I stumbled upon an interesting and quite shocking documentary on YouTube.

A couple of weeks ago I stumbled upon an interesting and quite shocking documentary on YouTube. The documentary was called Sex Lies and Rinsing Guys.

Before I watched that video I already knew that there are men who spend all their money on women in the hope to get laid. If those girls take money directly in exchange for sexual services they are called prostitutes and if they pretend to love the guy they're sleeping with they're called gold diggers.

I honestly thought that it can't get worse than that in the world of love. As it turned out I was wrong.

There is a new trend among beautiful women with fake tan and fake boobs. It's called rinsing and even though it sounds similar to gold digging, it is not exactly the same.

Whereas a gold digger starts a relationship with the guy she wants to take to the cleaners, a girl who rinses guys doesn't even have to meet him in person. There is no physical contact and no sex involved. Those guys spend all their money on girls without ever getting anything in return.

If you don't believe me you have to click on the link above and watch the whole video. Believe me, you will get angry. I also got angry, but I didn't get angry at the girls. I got angry at the guys who were desperate enough to support those women.

You can't really blame those girls for what they do. I mean, who wouldn't accept $500 for a short Skype call or a text message? However, I do blame the men for being more desperate than any guy who pays prostitutes for sex. At least he gets something in return.

That's why I decided to write an open letter to the rinsers. In case you are one of them, it is totally fine with me if you take it personally. Here is what I want to say to you:

Dear Rinser,

I know that you had a hard time in school. I know that little Jenny in the first row laughed at you when you asked her if she wants to go to prom with you. I understand your pain and your sorrow. I know that you have never learned to conquer your fears.

About two years ago I couldn't even talk to women without sweating and shivering. Approaching a woman in an honest way was completely out of my reality.

For me the turning point came when I was meeting a woman who I was in love with and all she did was to drink two cocktails that I had to pay for, before she met her boyfriend.

I was so close to giving up. I was so close to become one of those desperate guys who pay girls for smileys, Skype calls and text messages, just to experience how it feels to get attention from a girl, even though this attention is nothing but the result of a brutal transaction.

I had to decide which path I take.

On the one hand, there was the path of becoming a guy who pays girls without expecting anything in return. Back then I didn't know that the word rinsing exists, but I knew that there had to be another way.

On the other hand, there was the path of becoming a guy who overcomes his fears, who dedicates his life to improving himself and who is willing to fail over and over again until he finally learns how to attract the girl of his dreams into his life.

I can't even tell you how glad my girlfriend and I are that I took the second path. 

Which path did you take? I think we both know the answer.

You chose to spend all your time working long hours in order to make enough money to pay for the brief attention and false affection of some twenty year old girl with fake boobs. Deep down you know that every text message, every smiley and every word she says to you is nothing but a lie.

The girl you pamper with expensive presents is nothing but a saleswoman who learned how to trick you into believing that you really matter to her. You are her game ball and she only plays with you until she found someone who is even more desperate and who has more money he can waste on her.

Besides being angry at you for teaching more and more young women that taking advantage of emotionally weak human beings is far more profitable than honest work, I feel sorry for you. I feel sorry that you took this path and that you never found out how real appreciation and affection feels like.

Nevertheless, I am convinced that there is still hope for you. It is never too late to change your life. It is never too late to become a man who is able to attract women into his life who text him because they want to and not because they expect a pair of shoes in return.

It is never too late to learn how to meet women who want to spend time with you and who love you for who you are and not for the amount of money you send them every month.

You only have this one life. I guarantee you that living this life with women who actually care about you and who love you is way more rewarding than wasting your life and all your money on girls who don’t give a shit about you.

The choice is yours.


Sebastian Harris


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