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What Really Turns Guys On


What Really Turns Guys On
Let Me Show You Exactly What Really Turns Guys On So That You Can Have The Sex Life Your Deserve!

Tell Him What You Like - Telling your man what you like and enjoy him doing in bed serves 2 purposes. It lets him know what techniques and positions get you off the most while at the same time it massages your man's ego in a subtle way. 

*Massaging your man's ego is an incredibly powerful thing you can do when finding out what turns men on. So if you like him making love to you in a certain position or using a certain technique or kissing you in a certain way, then let him know. But don't just say, 'I like that'. Describe in detail what it is about it that turns you on. And try to use as much detail as possible.

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Initiate Love Sequence In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1... - Another thing that few people figure out on there own when learning what turns their man on is that taking a little bit of control and initiating things is really hot for your man. So if you man is usually the one who starts things in the bedroom, then without mentioning it to him, change things up and be the one who initiates things. You'll be able to see the surprise and delight in your man's eyes!

Ok, now that I have talked about specific things that you can do to turn your man on, it's time to learn how to find out your man's kinks and fetishes...

Finding Out His Kinks & Fetishes - If you want to truly turn your man on in a way that no other woman can, then you need to find out his kinks and fetishes. But for guys, these are often something really personal and private. Guys are usually super nervous and shy about revealing them to ANYONE.

So if you surprise him and directly ask him what really turns him on and what his kinks are, then he'll try to dodge the question. So my first advice is to avoid asking him about them directly.

Instead, I suggest that you be quite indirect about them. Wait until you are both being intimate in bed. Right before sex is the perfect time. Start by telling your man about some of your tamer kinks and turn ons. If could be him being very aggressive in bed or him going down on you. Then if he seems to like hearing about them, move on telling him about your deeper fantasies and turn ons.

After talking about your kinks for a while, then it's time to find out his. But rather than asking him really directly about what his turn ons are, be indirect. Try phrase it like these examples:

I bet you love it when I'm dominant and in control in the bedroom?

Do you prefer me going down on you or using my hands?

Once he starts opening up, he'll hopefully volunteer his turn ons to you. But if he doesn't open up, then start to explore further with more indirect questions like these:

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  • I have a sneaking suspicion that you'd like to see me with another girl?
  • I bet that you'd get really turned on by doing it in public?

If you enjoyed learning about what turns guys on and want to learn more techniques, tactics and tips for pleasing him, then you may be interested in watching this detailed oral sex video tutorial. It will teach you pretty much everything you need to know on how to please your man with your mouth.

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