How To Go Down On A Woman To Give Her MASSIVE Orgasms

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Know before you go down.

Learning how to go down on a woman correctly is the closest thing to a foolproof way to make a woman orgasm! Penetration doesn’t often do the trick for many women. Many men love how intimate oral sex is. And cunnilingus is great for preparing for penetration. When you go down on her, it also brings you and your woman closer together by showing your woman that you appreciate her.

Here's how to prepare to go down on a woman:

1. Make sure you're in the mood for it.

If you look at oral sex as a distasteful act or as something that you have to do so that you can have intercourse, you might as well forget it. She’ll sense your unwillingness. You wouldn’t appreciate her giving you head when she’s obviously turned off by it. So give her the same consideration by being a willing partner. 

2. Help her shower or cleanse.

If you’re not a fan of cunnilingus, if the thought makes you squeamish, or if she’s self-conscious, showering or bathing first can really help before you go down on her. If you have the time, you can both shower or take a bath together.

Ask her to light a vanilla candle in the bathroom or to use vanilla bubble bath. The smell of vanilla is arousing to most men. If you’re taking a bath together, go ahead and have some wine that will loosen you both up. But if you don’t have a lot of time for a shower or a bath, she can use wipes, which are good enough most of the time before you go down on her.

3. Get comfortable.

Use pillows under her butt to boost her hips so that your neck stays comfortable and doesn’t develop a crick. You don’t want to have to stop what you're doing just as it’s getting good for her.

4. Consider a dental dam.

I always advise that you use a dental dam before you giving a woman oral sex if you or her hasn’t been tested for sexually transmitted diseases. You can buy a dental dam specifically for this purpose, or you can make one by cutting the tip off a condom and then by cutting straight down the condom’s length. You want to create a thin square of latex material that you can place over her vulva to provide a barrier between your mouth and her vagina.

Now that you're ready to go down on her, here's how you actually do it:

1. Pace yourself.

Slow and steady wins the race when you give cunnilingus. Don’t be in a rush. In fact, the less rushed she feels, the faster she’ll probably cum. And the more you take your time and stay comfortable, the longer you’re likely to last.

You don’t want your jaw to give out or your neck to cramp. So stay comfortable, and take your time, stopping and starting as you like. You can also change positions to make it more comfortable for you and to see if you can find a position she prefers.

The traditional position is with her on her back, legs bent and spread wide apart. But you can be the one lying down, and she can straddle your face. Or you can both give each other oral sex at the same time using the 69 position. Start with little tongue strokes that are done lightly. You can then make the strokes longer, but still go slowly. Vary your tongue from being soft to hard.

2. Be patient.

It can take up to 30 minutes for a woman to orgasm from oral sex. But some women can climax in as little as 30 seconds when you’re going down on her. You can’t expect it to go quickly, however.

Expect it to last for the duration, and with that mindset, she’ll probably orgasm quicker. Women need to feel relaxed and not rushed to orgasm. If she feels that you’re there for the long haul, no matter how long it takes, she’ll relax and will likely climax quicker. Tell her that you’ll stay with her for as long as it takes and that you want her to relax and just enjoy the sensations.

3. Take a break.

Don’t feel as if you have to continue cunnilingus for the entire time. Take a break. Maybe move to kissing or dry humping without losing momentum. You can also tell her how much you love the way her vagina tastes. And then return to oral sex again.

4. Buildup in intensity.

A slower buildup leads to a more intense orgasm. So start slowly and gently. Tease the area around the clit for a period of time. You might even want to make her beg you to lick her clit. Only then will you use your tongue directly on her clit. Gradually start to increase the speed and pressure, or start using your fingers as well.

5. Don’t forget the rest of her body.

Hold her hand, grope her breasts, caress her stomach, etc. You can do this while you’re going down, or you can focus on other parts of her body when you need to take a break. If she’s taking a long time, maybe she’s not relaxed. Try massaging her back, her thighs, and her stomach, and then start oral sex again.

6. It’s not just about the clit.

Some women even find the clit to be too sensitive! This is especially true when you first start. Most woman don’t want you to just go right in for the kill.

The clitoris is very sensitive, so if you start there, it might be too much for her. The labia, clitoral hood, and clitoral legs are all prime targets, and you may want to save the clit for last.

You can help her feel comfortable by moaning and verbally appreciating her body. When you can tell that she’s turned on (maybe she’s moaning or writhing), then go for the clit.

Keep these pro tips in mind:

1. Careful the porny stuff.

Motorboating her vulva is something only for porn, and your woman will probably find that technique to be silly. She probably won’t squirm around and moan the second you get down there, either. But don’t discount everything you see in porn. She might like the techniques from porn. For example, some women like a man to suck their clit. So try that to see if she likes it. And she might like one technique one day and a different one another day. So it’s good to vary what you do when you’re learning how to eat pussy.

2. Use the "ABC method."

The ABC method is where you trace the letters of the alphabet all around her vulva and clit. You do this to determine which sorts of tongue movements she likes where. Once you’ve found two or three that she likes, there’s no need to use the ABC method anymore. Otherwise, it’s likely too inconsistent. Go slowly, and remember your movements enough to repeat what she likes. If you don’t literally want to trace letters, try moving your tongue up and down or side to side.

3. Imagine her vulva as a clock.

You want to imagine her vulva as a clock to figure out which area she likes stimulated. Say that 12:00 is the clit, and 6:00 is the vaginal opening. By looking at the whole area, you can explore all of the vulva with your tongue and not just the clit. Start at 12:00, and go around each “hour” with your tongue, ending with the clit. While you are going around the clock, you might sense other sensitive areas that she likes you focusing on.

By all means, go back to those areas. Use different techniques as well, such as licking, sucking, blowing, gentle biting or nibbling, and flat vs. pointed tongue. In case you’re wondering, a flat tongue will cover more of the area, which she’ll probably prefer in the beginning. And a pointed tongue will feel more intense, which she’ll really like as she’s getting close to having an orgasm.

4. Don’t forget your hands.

You may be surprised that learning how to perform cunnilingus also involves learning how to use your hands. Get into a position where your hands are free. You’ll want to use them to massage her breasts, her torso, her legs, or whichever area she likes. You might need to use your hand to lift her clitoral hood to get to the clit. You can also finger her at the same time. This increases the sensations for her, making the experience more exciting.

Slowly place a finger inside her vagina or anus while licking her. Note that once you put your finger in her butt, you can’t then put it in her vagina. This is for sanitary reasons. Some women like pressing down on the mons pubis while you’re going down on her. You can even use your nose.

5. Use a vibrator.

Another technique you might want to try when performing oral sex on her is incorporating a vibrator. Use a small vibrator on her clitoral hood. You can then use your tongue on the area. Alternate back and forth to make it more exciting for her and to give yourself a break. Then put the vibrator inside her vagina while you use your tongue on her clit.

6. Ask for feedback. 

But many women are too shy to tell you if they don’t really like what you’re doing, or even if they really do. So the best thing is to set up a system when you're first learning what your woman likes. For example, if she likes what you’re doing, she can run her hands through your hair (or rub your head), and if she doesn’t like what you’re doing she can tap you on your shoulder or back. And you can also read her body. Is she pushing her hips toward you? Is she moving away? Is she just being still, waiting for it to end? Is she moaning? If so, is it real or fake?

A feedback system, such as hair pulling, tapping, or some other signal can be useful. When you find something she likes, keep doing it. Many women love it when you lick her vulva in an upward motion toward her clit, and then stop just short of the clit. Do that over and over until she is moaning and practically begging you to lick her clit. And then oblige.

Play-by-play Instructions

  • Start with kisses, licks, and nibbles along her mouth and neck. Then work your way to her thighs as you spread her legs and move between them.
  • Remember to engage in eye contact.
  • Caress her breasts.
  • Remove her panties if they’re still on.
  • Breathe in her scent, and then exhale warmly over her vulva.
  • Brush your fingers against her vulva and labia.
  • Follow up by kissing and licking. Move back to her thighs a few times before spreading her outer lips.
  • Move to her inner lips. Lick and kiss them.
  • Finally make tongue contact with her clit.
  • Follow the technique advice from above to find what your woman likes. Cycle through two to three techniques, but take your time, and use enough pressure.
  • Add fingers if she likes them.
  • Continue until orgasm (unless you need a break or she signals she’s satisfied).

Conclusion

This advice on how to eat pussy should leave a woman satisfied, even if she doesn’t have an orgasm. Not everyone can orgasm from oral sex, so don't make that the goal. Give your woman oral sex because it’s something you want to do for her pleasure. Every guy needs to get feedback from his partner to find out what she wants and needs. Once you add oral sex to your sexual repertoire, she’ll really appreciate you. And she’ll probably want to reciprocate by giving you an awesome blowjob.

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