Your Ultimate Guide To Phone Sex

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Your Ultimate Guide To Phone Sex
Don't let distance stop you from having amazing sex.

Trying to keep it hot during long distance can be be tough. One particular problem is the lack of physical intimacy. A great work around to compensate for this is by trying phone sex. While I usually teach people how to talk dirty (like in this video that will teach you everything you need to know) and have great sex, today I want to concentrate solely on phone sex.

It's usually not as good as the real thing, but it is particularly good at bridging the gap until you do see each other again. Now let's learn the best way to have phone sex.

  1. Skype And By Phone: You might think that always using Skype for phone sex is best. The funny thing is that I always advise people to alternate between the using Skype and a a cell phone for phone sex. Why? The reason is to change things up. If you are having phone sex two or three times a week, you are eventually going to fall into a routine, which is a real killer for your relationship. On Skype, when using a webcam, you are going to be able to see each other completely. This is certainly hot and lets you know exactly what they are doing, but your cell phone has it's benefits too. When talking on your cell phone, you won't be able to see your partner, you will only be able to hear them. This allows your imagination run wild, perfect for keeping it interesting. For more details on having Skype sex, you may be interested in this video tutorial.
  2. Build Up Slow - Phone Sex Foreplay To Sex: If it's your first time having phone sex with someone, then you may be both nervous and excited about it at the same time. You may be eager to immediately dive in to being explicit and telling your partner exactly what you want to do to them. A much better way to make the overall phone sex experience better is to slowly build up to actually getting sexual. This will help to build sexual tension and anticipation. So how do you build up to sex over the phone? Here are a few ways to do it from the foreplay section.
  3. Talk About The Situation And Positions: Describing the situation and surroundings is a hot and sexy way to slowly build up to getting sexual. You can do this for just 1 minute or over 10 minutes. It's up to you. Try saying things like: "I want you to walk over towards the bed and lie down on it." "Ok, now tell me how you're feeling." "Now what would you like me to do?" All these phrases aren't particularly exciting, but they are great for slowly getting things going. You can also tell him/her what position to take (you'll find over 100 different sexual positions with professional photographs here).
  4. Give Physical Directions: The next thing that you want to do is to start giving your partner physical directions about what to do to their body. Here are a few examples to give you an idea about what I mean: "I want you to start running your hands up and down the inside of your legs." "Slowly start unbuttoning your top and tell me what you're thinking." "Now get under the covers and slowly start teasing your nipples."
  5. What About You: All the time, while you are telling your partner what to do, you need to be telling them what you are doing as well. Let them know exactly what you are doing to arouse yourself, turn yourself on and get yourself off. This is the basic strategy to have phone sex with your partner. If you are looking for lots more strategies to have phone sex & Skype sex, then you'll find some really detailed posts in the Bad Girl's Bible.
  6. Don't Forget About Toys: A great way to make phone sex more fun is to use sex toys during it. There are great sex toys available for both guys and girls to replace the real thing. Now some people may be embarrassed or ashamed to be using sex toys during sex, but the truth is that there is nothing weird at all about it. It's just a great way to replicate the real thing.
  7. Sexy Texts & Pics:I always teach people strategies so that they never fall into a routine or allow their sex life to get boring. Just like I advise people to use Skype as well as their regular cell phone to spice things up, you can also try sending each other sex texts and sexy pictures too. Just remember that once you send someone a sex text or sexy picture, they can potentially keep it forever, so trust is absolutely crucial before you try either. A great app to use for this exact purpose that automatically deletes pictures after a set amount of time is SnapChat.

One final word of advice about phone sex. The first few times you have it, it's inevitably going to be a bit awkward and even a little weird. You'll find that the more you have it with your partner, the better it will get and the more relaxed both of you will be during it, so do your best to keep going even if you find it a bit awkward or weird.

You can find more detailed advice on how to build sexual tension, keep him attracted and turn him in this detailed instructional video.

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