Learning how to French kiss your partner is one of those intimate things that you absolutely must learn if you want keep things hot and fun. Today I want to show you some tips so that you know exactly what to do to make French kissing your loved one a fun experience for both of you.
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First things first. Before you even begin to think about kissing your partner, make sure that you have enticing, kissable lips. This is the least sexy kissing tip you'll read today, but it's one of the most important. If you have chapped, dry lips, make sure to regularly moisturize them to keep them soft and kissable. The same goes for cold sores. If you happen to have one, go to your local drug store to get something to get rid of it pronto!
Let your partner know you want to kiss. Before I get to the actual "how to French kiss" part, you must know how to initiate French kissing with your beau. Lunge toward him and plant your lips on his if you like, but honestly, that's usually not the smoothest thing to do. Often, doing that will just freak out your partner, especially if you take him by surprise.
Instead, during conversation, make a lot of eye contact. Every once in a while, glance from his eyes towards his lips for a few seconds. Very quickly, he will realize what's on your mind and know what to expect, so that when you do actually lean in for the kiss, he won't be caught off guard.
1. The build up:
Rather than going straight to massaging your partner's tongue with yours, it's nice to have a little build-up. Start by tilting your head to the side just a little bit so that your noses are not in the way. Then, gently squeeze your partner's upper lip between your lips for a few seconds, and then do the same with his lower lip. You can alternate between the upper and lower lip for a few seconds or even a few minutes.
2. Use your tongue:
Next, it's time to start using your tongue. From squeezing his lips between yours, tilt your head slightly further to the side and open your mouth a little more so that you can massage your partner's lips a little bit with your tongue. If he seems to like this, then continue to use your tongue more and more.
Next, try to extend your tongue a little more so that you can massage his tongue with it. If your partner is enjoying it, he will naturally be inclined to reciprocate and return the favor. Just make sure not to extend your tongue too far, otherwise your partner may find it uncomfortable.
While French kissing your partner, you can do a number of things:
- Make a slow, circling motion around his tongue with yours.
- Slowly and gently press against his tongue with yours.
- Softly use your tongue to lick and tease his lips.
- Alternate between all three of these techniques to add some variation to your French kissing repertoire.
3. How to stop kissing:
When you want to stop French kissing your partner, the easiest thing to do is just pull away from them and stop, but that can be a little abrupt. You may find it nicer to stop using your tongue and go back to the start by squeezing his upper or lower lip between yours before you pull away.
Don't forget about these two things! One thing you should never forget about when French kissing someone is your hands. Sure, you can just wrap them around your partner and leave them there, but there are tons of other, really great things you can do with them, too.
The easiest thing to do is to run them up and down his body. But don't stop there. You can also run them through his hair. The back of the scalp is one of the most sensitive and erogenous zones on the body, so make sure to use your nails and fingers to scratch it gently. Lastly, a sexy and dominant way to French kiss someone is to put a hand on his cheek and change which side you are kissing them on.
The final thing that you should never forget is that slower is far sexier, hotter and more sensual than faster 'washing machine' French kissing.
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