We love what Jeff Goins is doing in his “Slow Down” challenge. He is encouraging people to stop, smell the roses, and go deeper in their relationships. We completely agree. And we would like to add our Money Couple two cents:
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Stop. Slow down. Think about – don’t just react – to your honey’s Money Personalities.
How easy is it to react to our spouse when they say or do things that drive us nuts? Just last night we witnessed our Money Personalities popping up in our evening dishwashing routine.
Scott likes to make sure there is plenty of room in the dishwasher so the dishes get extra clean. (Security Seeker)
I, on the other hand, like to “push the envelope” and stuff as many dishes in the dishwasher as possible. (Risk Taker)
(Funny how Money Personalities affect all areas of our life.)
Anyway, Scott was not too happy with me as I stuffed a few last minute dishes in his already running dishwasher.
His comment: “Seriously?! Come on!”
My response. “Oh. Give me a break.”
Notice how far we are from having this all figured out?!
What if I:
- slowed down, taken a deep breath, and thought before I stuffed those dishes in, Or
- slowed down, stopped long enough … to not stuff? Or
- slowed down and considered what I knew was his perspective
Neither of us was trying to be difficult, but it is easy to forget how differently we see things.
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In our fast-paced, “get it done” society our relationships can suffer. It helps to remember the impact our urgency can have on our loved ones. In my rush to get the job done, I forgot there is another person in the house, another person to care for, another person I love.
Sorry, hon – I will work to slow down and think about you ahead of myself. I won’t be perfect, but I will try.
Thank you Jeff Goins for your campaign and reminder of what is important. We encourage our readers to sign up for Jeff’s challenge, slow down, and leave us a comment about a recent “too fast” decision that hurt your relationship. Did you see your Money Personalities shining through?
Here’s to working towards love for a lifetime – let’s stop, take a deep breath, and LOVE!!
The Money Couple®
Scott & Bethany Palmer
Creators of The 5 Money Personalities™