Dave is a saver/security seeker. Kim is a flyer/spender. Dave is proud of the many ways he figures out how to save money. In fact, they wouldn't even be at the game on their current salaries if Dave didn't take the time to trade favors with a friend for free seats. As a flyer, Kim doesn't give money much thought and her secondary spender likes to use money to get what she needs, when she needs it. Like a sandwich when she's hungry!
Opposite money personalities can cause a lot of friction in a relationship if couples don't communicate and set some reasonable boundaries with each other. If you resist the urge to slam them up against the glass, your money opposite can provide good balance to your natural tendencies. What kills relationships is misunderstanding and miscommunication. When couples fight about money, those arguments are rarely
just about money. They are about deeper relationship issues like trust, respect and connection. So, the sandwiches weren't to blame after all.
Dave and Kim's relationship may be "on ice" right now but learning a new love and money language could heat things back up. Understanding how to see eye-to-eye on their day-to-day money issues could salvage their relationship so they can continue to enjoy the many other things they do have in common.
Avoid the pain and frustration of misunderstanding and take the next 15 minutes to identify you and your partner's money personalities with our free, scientific, Money Personality Quiz. Browse through some of our website articles about the different money personalities, or pick up our new book of strategies for dealing with this very situation and many others, The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language.
Scott & Bethany Palmer
The Money Couple®
Creators of The 5 Money Personalities™