Everyone has been in a relationship where we really don't know if he is that into it. Isn't it horrible when you don't know where you stand and you ask yourself, "How do I really know if he/she is into me — I am so frustrated confused and sick of wondering?". Money is a great way to figure it out because it's an indicator of sorts. Because money impacts all of our lives, everyday, you can watch for tall tail signs where your relationship stands by watching how money is being used. Here are three signs to tell you if the relationship is worth keeping or throwing out the back door.
1. Lies About Money
This is ANY kind of lie. They said they left a tip and they didn't, or you found three candy bars in the bag and you know they only paid for two and say, "Oh it doesn't matter". Or they tell you they don't have any credit card debt and you see a statement on their kitchen table. We call that "Money Infidelity". If they are willing to lie about money in the small stuff then let us tell you — they will lie about the big stuff later.
2. Doesn't Talk About Money
Tight lips about money? Tight lips about lots of stuff. We like to look at money as a laboratory — if they never talk about it or don't want you to talk about it, there is something that they are hiding and they don't want you to get too close. On the reverse side of that, when they do open up about money, that is a sure sign that says, "I'm ready to go to the next level with you".
3. Borrows But Doesn't Repay Money
This a big one. Many people just brush it off because they think, "well maybe he/she doesn't have the money to pay me back". Maybe that is the case, but in a relationship you want open/honest communication. If they aren't willing to talk about a loan that they promised to pay back, what other promises are going to be broken? A person tells you who they are by their actions – believe them the first time!
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Here’s to having a great day-to-day Money Relationship!
Make it Happen,
Scott and Bethany Palmer
The Money Couple®
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