Do you know if your partner is deep in debt? Prevent financial infidelity with these tips.
Coming home from vacation is so hard! While you're swinging in a hammock in paradise you forget your long list of things-to-do, your bills, your diet and your boss. Coming home is a startling return to reality.
Josh's return home was especially startling.
Home from Maui with his new bride, he went to their bulging mailbox to retrieve the mail. He wondered how two people could get this much mail in just one week? At least the wedding and honeymoon bills hadn't arrived yet. He hated to think of the bills they racked up in the last few weeks! But a wedding and once-in-lifetime-trip was worth it and he knew he and Paige would remember this time forever.
Then a feeling he'd soon want to forget hit him. His heart sank, his stomach turned to knots, a $10,000 credit card bill?! Whose was this? Did his neighbor's mail get stuffed in their box? Was there some other Paige McCancy? There had to be some mistake!
Unfortunately, the mistake was a lack of full disclosure. Paige hid her debt from Josh while they were dating because there never seemed to be a good time to bring it up. She thought Josh was so sweet but he always worried about money. When they started planning the wedding and the honeymoon, she figured mentioning her debt would push him over the edge. So she told herself she'd tell him later.
Like the flash floods in Maui, this rush of information has the potential to damage everything. But it doesn't have to. The damage is done. The debt is real. What can they do now?
1. Get all the facts on the table. All of them! Was this debt for needs — schooling, car repairs, medical expenses, etc.? Or was it for shopping, lattes and tanning beds? There's a reason we vow to each other about money in our wedding vows. Her debt is now their debt. Keep reading ...
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