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SlutWalk In Philly And WorldWide: Long Overdue Focus On The Blame

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SlutWalk In Philly And WorldWide: Long Overdue Focus On The Blame
SlutWalk is an international movement placing blame for rape where it belongs - with the perpetrator

"YOU are going to Walk with the Philly SlutWalkers on August 6th , AND dress in a slutty way?" a very good and savvy friend asked me for the second time --- her voice incredulous.

"Yes, I am -- in an age appropriate slutty way," I responded.

"What's that?" she continued, still incredulous.

"A slinky little black dress, purple boa and long purple gloves." (I had also bought purple sneakers that I did not mention.)

"Oh, and what does Stan (my husband of 31 years) think about all of this?"

"He thinks it's great. We are walking together."

There was dead silence.

For those who do may not know, SlutWalk is a global movement that was born in April when thousands of women (and some men) took to the Toronto streets in fishnet, bra, bustier, very short shorts and truly micro-minis after a police officer there (who has since apologized) suggested that "women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be sexually victimized."

Although some women have objected to the word "slut" to express their outrage, this episode touched a far-reaching nerve with a determination to at long last place the "blame spotlight" on perpetrator rather than victim. Similar marches have occurred in cities throughout the U.S., Canada, Europe, Australia and New Zealand. "We are tired of being oppressed by slut-shaming," SlutWalk organizers have declared, "of being judged by our sexuality and feeling unsafe."

All of my professional life, I have spoken out against the shame and blame women have endured for centuries. As incredible as it will seem today, in my early years of professional training, all theories I studied blamed women for just about everything that could go wrong in a life or a family. "Unloving and rejecting" moms were even blamed for both autism and schizophrenia. A wife who disagreed with her husband angrily, was either "castrating" or "mildly castrating," depending on her degree of anger. (Things that men may do or say to provoke anger was never a part of our theoretical discussions.)

Sit down and breathe deeply before you read the next sentence! I also was taught that when a woman was raped, she wanted it, and even enjoyed it. These were the years that following a rape, many police officers asked the violated woman if she had reached orgasm.

And so in 1968, pregnant with my older daughter, I was unable to keep quiet any longer. After witnessing a horrific episode of shame and blame, I stormed into the office of the medical director of the large teaching hospital where I worked. I reported the incident (not my first of such reports) and asked how he could continue to stand by and allow women to be repeatedly blamed for just about everything, including the pathology of the men in their lives. And I was fired.

Although the theories I learned as a young clinician have been modified, humanized, and are now far more scientifically based, sexual violations toward women are as prevalent as they have ever been. Further, the pervading culture causes the majority of women to believe that they are the cause of their sexual abuse, including incest.

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SaraKay Smullens

Author, Counselor/Therapist, Marriage and Family Therapist, Social Worker, Speaker/Presenter

I look forward to your thoughts and sharing with you.

To be continued,

SaraKay Smullens, MSW, BCD, LCSW, ACSW, CFLE, CGP 

Location: Philadelphia, PA
Credentials: BCD, MSW
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