Embracing Sadness: A Love Letter to Real Life and Coping


Embracing Sadness:  A Love Letter to Real Life and Coping
When facing loss and disappointment, many first turn to meds. It is wiser to embrace your feelings.


Yes, there is happiness at great occasions -- our own, and the ones of those we love and care for. And there is happiness when we finally are able to leave the confines and prisons of tormented relationships.  There is also happiness when you or one you care about recover from a serious illness. But happiness will ever be fleeting, for life itself will always bring sadness; and despite what we tell children about "happily ever after," before they are ready to face harsh realities -- there is no such thing.


Please, please: Do not view these words as downers. They are said to dispel expectations that are pure myth. They are shared so that none miss the joy that is right here for the asking: build life and love with those who can be trusted; teach your children the importance of respect for others and hard, hard work; know the importance of your own self respect when faced with those who cannot be trusted -- and allow no one to rob you of your dignity... I

n other words, claim your well earned and deserved joy, including well prepared meals shared with others, and enjoyed alone as well, and the ocean and the sunset... and art in every form... For once again, the list goes on and on...


And, if you are sad, do find a friend, a loved one to talk to -- and it is never unwise to consult a professional. Yes, if you are too depressed to function, and you are thinking self destructive thoughts, medication can be the answer.

But a far wiser first step is to talk about it with a few you trust, and cry with them. Write about it, cherishing your words and the tears you shed. Embrace your sadness; it is a love letter to life. It is a sign of humanity.

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SaraKay Smullens, MSW, BCD, LCSW, ACSW, CFLE, CGP 

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