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Why Kristen Stewart Isn't The One To Blame

Why Kristen Stewart Isn't The One To Blame [EXPERT]
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While she shouldn't have cheated on Robert Pattinson, there's still more to the story.

OK, I've had it ... really had it! I am writing in defense of Kristen Stewart.

I have found it unbearable to read (and impossible to ignore) the fallout from Kristen Stewart's (age 22) involvement with director, Rupert Sanders (age 41), during her latest film, "Snow White and the Huntsman." This is the very film where Sanders' wife, Liberty Ross, the mother of his two young children, Tennyson and Skyle, plays Kristen's mother.

It is impossible to count how many times the description of Kristen's "shocking betrayal" of Robert Pattinson, with whom she has had three year Twilight-induced romance, has been read or heard about. Media overkill has led to a vicious and scathing attack of Stewart, who reportedly has gone into seclusion at her mother's home and can neither eat nor sleep.

Meanwhile, Pattinson, placed in the most humiliating position a man can find himself in, has, among other nurturing acts, been given Ben & Jerry's by Jon Stewart and has done his best to take a high road.

Young fans who once saw Stewart's romance with Pattinson as the dream romance they longed for now write that they wish Kristen Stewart dead and more. It has been reported that while Sanders will direct the sequel to "Snow White," Stewart may well be dropped from the picture. 8 Life Lessons From Mary Kennedy's Untimely Death

The only wise light in this horrific mess is actress Jodie Foster, who has endured her share of media hell. Foster's stalker, John Hinckley, Jr., obsessed with her role as a 12-year-old prostitute in the 1976 film, Taxi Driver, shot President Ronald Reagan in an effort to impress and woo Foster. Addressing the horrors that Stewart is now enduring, Foster wrote in a Daily Beast essay, "We've all seen the headlines at the checkout counter. But we seldom consider the childhoods we unknowingly destroy in the process."

She continued, "If I had to grow up in this media culture, I don't think I could survive it emotionally." Foster deeply respects Stewart. She played the mom of an 11-year-old Stewart in David Fincher's 2002 film Panic Room, and writes that the young actor possesses "beautiful talent and fearlessness."

In my psychotherapy practice, I have worked with actors in the Philadelphia and New York areas. What most do not realize is the huge degree of fantasy that often envelops a film set throughout the shoot. And in this period, seduction and flirtation easily flourish. All serious actors learn to see this setting for what it is — a fantasy — and to view any potential sexual involvement as one where there is an act or a role, not an authentic person.

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