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Why Presents Matter
How To Select A Gift For Your Partner, And Why It Matters

Few things induce panic in men more than having to select the right gift for their significant other. While it may be that it is the thought that counts, let’s face it- picking a present can be a stressful undertaking. Perhaps you believe that gifts are exclusively for birthdays, anniversaries, or Valentine’s Day. Maybe you like to surprise your partner for no reason at all. Regardless of your gift giving preferences, it matters what you choose, and here’s why:

Women want to feel like you get them.

Isn’t that a bit judgmental? Shouldn’t she just be happy that I tried?

Most women will appreciate their man’s efforts. However, a string of ill fitting gifts may cause your lady to question if you understand and listen to her, especially if she has been dropping hints of what she likes in order to help you out.

Uh oh. I guess I haven’t picked up on her clues and I have no idea what to get her. Help!!!

No worries. Here are some safe bets.

1. It is difficult to go wrong with jewelry, as long as you know that she wears it. Ask her friend to accompany you while shopping to give you a second opinion. If this is not possible, go to a department store (or a store you know that she likes) and have a salesperson help you. If you begin to feel overwhelmed by the choices, remember that simple is better. Purchasing earrings and necklaces do not require knowing the proper sizing, so they are a safe choice (just make sure that she has her ears pierced if you pick earrings!)

2. If she is adventurous, plan a trip! It does not have to cost a lot of money to be romantic and memorable. You can even plan a night camping in your town or stay in a local B&B. Extra points for keeping the location a surprise.

3. Create a compilation of her favorite things. This could include her favorite movies, CDs, books, artwork, candy, flowers, the list goes on and on. Add a personal, hand written card to tie it all together. What could be better than that?

Gifts aren’t about money or material things; they are to show that you appreciate the uniqueness of the person you love.

Love always,

Sara

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Sara Sharnoff

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Sara Sharnoff, MS FT

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