The Great Soulmate Debate


The Great Soulmate Debate
Do soulmates exist?

Question: Hey Sara! What’s your take on the “soulmate” debate? Do soulmates exist, or are they a figment of our imaginations?

A friend once shared a story that when she was a little girl, her mother said that she was so happy that she found her husband, because he was her “one.” My friend was relieved that her mother had found her “one” because she thought it would be terrible to spend your whole life without ever finding your missing piece. Maybe her parents really are soulmates; this would not be the first time I have heard couples describing their connection this way. Or, perhaps this was an easy way for her mother to instill hope in her daughter that she too can find the perfect person if she never gives up the search.

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Do I believe in soulmates? I’m not really sure. But do I believe in real love? Without a doubt. I suppose I am more of a realist than a romantic, but I believe that for most men and women, there are many compatible partners out there. With over six billion people in the world, I have to think that there is more than one man who I could love and adore. Sometimes people miss these opportunities because they become fixated on someone in their past who “got away”, their one true love: their soulmate. I firmly believe that if a person is truly your soulmate, the feeling would be mutual.

It may be a controversial notion, but I believe that a person can have many “ones” in a lifetime. The boy who was right for me at sixteen may not be the right man for me at twenty-five, but that in no way minimizes the way I felt about him at that point in my life. Maybe one day I’ll meet a man and change my mind, but for now, a solid relationship based on trust, loyalty, and respect is more than enough for me.

When people say that they have found their soulmate, I believe they are really describing a deep, spiritual connection that they share with someone. If you find this even once in your lifetime, you are very lucky indeed.

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