So don’t underestimate the importance of common interests. You’re not being too picky if you move on to someone who likes more of the same kinds of things you do, someone who wants to do the same things on the weekends.
It’s a sign that you have similar core values. In Rosie and Kelli’s case, there are different values in shopping and tennis vs. counting dolphins from a boat with your kids.
Your values are an extension of you. Pay close attention to what matters to you, and you’ll attract a partner who believes in the same things. Otherwise, you’re working too hard to try and make the relationship successful.
Those incompatibilities will come back to haunt you.
I know. I lived it. And I vow not to repeat the same mistakes. I’ve made mistakes in love so you don’t have to. I’m here to help you figure out the difference between true incompatibility and an annoying habit. Don’t hesitate to ask for help. That’s what I’m here for.
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