Your broken heart CAN hurt you.
Suffering from a broken heart? it is absolutely natural to feel broken hearted after a break up, or even after the loss of a close friendship.
Scientific research is confirming that being broken hearted is actual literal problem.
When our heart "breaks” it is physically weakened and leaves us susceptible to physical heart problems and disease.
When it comes to women research shows that 40% of women age 20 or older already have some form of heart disease.
So what happens when stress and heartache are the cause for physical problems?
Going to the medical doctor will not help, and there is no pill you can take to magically reverse these health problems, although some drugs and alcohol will mask it … for a little while.
The good news is there IS something you can do about this epidemic. You can heal your heart and release pain and suffering. Here are three steps to doing that:
1. Feel your feelings.
It's okay, it makes you human.
It is interesting that although women may not have been told to man up, we still vacate our hearts when it is too painful to feel our pain. We numb our feelings and heartache.
For example think of some of the ways you have ignored your pain after a breakup, perhaps with drugs or alcohol, maybe by engaging is casual rebound sex that didn’t nurture your soul, or maybe by drowning yourself work, or new shoes.
As a busy single mother and entrepreneur, I have intimate experience with ignoring my pain. The voice in my head would often tell me that I didn’t have time to deal with hurt or that I had to numb my feelings to get things done. This is a lie and the accumulated pain will eventually show up as health problems, and even heart disease.
2. Let it out.
When you’re feeling pain, cry.
Feel your feelings, and cry out your pain. Heart disease used to be considered a men’s problem, and traditionally men have been taught to not cry and “man up”.
There is nothing like a good cry to open up your heart center and release the tension, hurt, and pain you have stored in your heart.
Don’t judge it by asking yourself “why?”or distract yourself by telling yourself you are okay when you are not. Just be with it and feel it. It will pass.
We often think that feelings such as sadness, or longing are bad. But feelings are not good or bad, they just are.
If you let them come out they will pass, if you trap them in your body they will lead to illness.
3. Do what makes you happy.
When you are done crying and releasing the pain, put your hand over your heart or look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, “What can I do to make you happy today” and then do it.
This is a great way to take care of your heart and nurture it back to health.
When our hearts are broken, our minds are often focused on what we have lost. When you remember the unique activities that bring your heart joy and do them, your heart will start to heal and you will feel positive, happy, and HEALTHY again.
Samin Razzaghi is an ICF Certified Life Coach, specializing in helping women heal and lead with heart. Ready to start feeling better? Contact me or Sign up for my FREE 6 week Healing Heart Self Study Course.