In addition, it is time to target any sexual issues that either of you may be experiencing. These issues often go unfixed due to male pride or embarrassment. Lack of sex drive and the inability to maintain an erection, among other sexual issues, are easily treatable with natural and prescription medications. A healthy sex life is crucial to a healthy relationship.
5. Take the listening test. How do you listen? True empathy requires active listening. Active listening is completely and totally focusing on the other person, without distraction. Active listening goes beyond just hearing the words that they say. It requires feeling the energy that the person is putting across in the room. Active listening also requires that you are not planning a counterargument or solution as the other person talks. Listen, think and then speak.Want To Know What Makes a Happy Relationship?
6. During an arguement, stop speaking. Almost everyone is in agreement that communication is essential to successful relationships. But as noted in the last tip, words are not the only ways in which we can communicate with one another. Sometimes we even use words malproductively. Words are frequently used in order to hide our true feelings, to over intellectualize a situation or to disguise our vulnerabilities from our partners.
So try this. The next time you get into an argument, stop talking and stare deeply into each other's eyes for one minute. If you find it helpful, put on your favorite cheesy love song in the background. When you feel so compelled, reach out for your partner's hand. Then wait patiently. The anger will subside as you connect with one another.
Hugging works as well. Hugging for at least 20 seconds releases oxytocin in the brain, a chemical responsible for attachment in both sexes. Oxytocin is otherwise known as the "cuddle hormone." Hugging also releases dopamine and serotonin, "feel good" chemicals. The better you start to feel, the better you will feel about your partner. Want A Happy Relationship?
7. Keep a qualities list. Make a list of all of the things you love about your partner and put it up somewhere so that you can see it everyday. By consistently having a visual reminder of all the things that you love about that person, you will be able to remember all the reasons you are in love with them.