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What It Means If Your Man Is A Text-Only Guy

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Is not calling and just texting really a red flag?

I’ve had some girl pals asking me whether it was OK if the guy they're dating just wants to text. They keep on repeating the same question, "Why does he only text me?"

To some women, not calling and just texting is a red flag. They want to know if there was something wrong with either him or them.

Well, let’s try to answer that question.

First and foremost, the only person who can truly answer if "act A" is OK with you is you.

It’s not that you can’t trust others and their opinions. But, when it comes down to the nitty-gritty, you are the one who will face the consequences so you should take into consideration what you think and then decide.

So let’s go back to the part about men and texting.


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Quick question: have you visited your favorite coffee shop or restaurant lately and seen groups of men huddled up in one table while talking to other people on their phones? Well, the answer would most likely be a big "NO."

Here’s the thing: men don’t get the same kind of high that women get when they talk to their significant others over the phone. Men, in general, are outcome driven, they call or text for a purpose. 

"Hey, I had a swell time last week. Want to hang out tomorrow?"

Men text like that. Direct to the point. No run arounds. No beating around the bush. It works and it takes very little effort.

Please note that this does not mean that men don’t like talking to their ladies over the phone every once in a while. It’s essential, but men don't see it as a priority in a relationship.


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Also, texting might be the only way a shy guy can communicate with a girl.

Remember not to let it get in the way on your end. Maybe he sees texting as the only way he can show interest to you without putting himself out there.

If he doesn’t really like you, he can always opt to not text you, right?

So the fact that he is texting means he's showing interest. You'd be surprised at just how many men have anxiety when it comes to the fear of rejection which causes them to go into their caves and communicate with you in a more passive manner.

Hey, men love safety too! 

To wrap things up, if a guy chooses to text you instead of calling you, it doesn't mean that there is something wrong, or that he doesn't like you. There is nothing wrong whenever you ask, "Why does he only text me?" every time but you have to recognize all of the things mentioned above. It’s not all bad.

As a matter of fact, it might mean that you are on to something great. You have to be a little bit patient over time as his confidence boost and your relationship gets stronger he will call you. 

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