7 Ways To Win At Marriage (That You Won't Learn From Celebrities)

Love, Heartbreak

Just because J.Lo and Kim K. can't stay married doesn't mean that's your fate, too.

Hollywood is full of broken marriages: Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony, Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt, Kim Kardashian and that NBA player she married for 72 days ... it's easy, based on celebrity standards, to assume that lasting marriages just aren't a thing anymore.

Whether we want to admit it or not, we're influenced by what we see and hear on TV and in the news (and in this case, in gossip rags). However, our lives are generally much different from, say, Kris Jenner's, and as a result, so are our relationships and chances of making them work. Thankfully, there are a few tools you can use to make your marriage outlast J. Lo's next one.

1. All you need isn't just love, but love is sure high on the list.
Obvious, right? It's No. 1 for a reason. Without love, you've got nothing. But you need other elements too. See below!

2. Honesty is always the best policy.
If you can't trust one another, you won't be able to build a foundation for any sort of relationship.

3. Compromise!
If only one partner's needs are being met, it's not a partnership.

4. Accept one another's flaws. Everyone has them. Even Beyonce! (OK, maybe not Beyonce.)
Neither of you are perfect. No, not even you. And that's okay!

5. Know that being in a relationship is a choice.
Being married to your partner is choice. If you both know that either of you could potentially say "peace out" and serve some divorce papers, you may end up being more likely to work harder at making one another happy.

6. Don't fight dirty, but don't be scared to fight in general.
There might be those moments of misunderstanding and petty fights, but don't ever think that these things happened because you are incompatible with each other and that you made a mistake. If you did, why did you even marry that person in the first place? See number 4 for why this happens and talk it out, then move along. You and your spouse will never be like Lego pieces that perfectly fit together — and that type of marriage would be boring and lifeless anyway.

7. Remember that movies, TV and even "reality" TV is still fantasy. It's not real!
In the end, we should not be influenced with what we see on TV, because it's fake. Even couple who seem happy in "real life" have publicists pulling strings and telling them what to do. All you need to do is invest in your and your partner's happiness, and everything else will fall into place.


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