3 REAL REASONS YOU CANNOT FIND YOUR SOULMATE THROUGH A DATING APP

I call this the generation memorized by a screen. And as a Teacher I have seen how detrimental this has been to my graduating students.  According to Dangers of Excessive Screen Time by Dr. Julian Whitaker---he says several studies have demonstrated that excessive screen time—defined as watching TV, playing video games and surfing the Internet or engaging in other computer-related activities—can have profound adverse effects on your health.  As a teacher I say several important skills are being missed—social skills and communication skills.  In essence this generation memorized by a screen has not been taught how to communicate with peers.  They have not practiced any of the social, and verbal cues of establishing and keeping a long term friendship with peers.  So how are they going to do this on a dating app and form a long term relationship that eventually leads to marriage?

According to a popular quote, “Soulmates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but are always perfect for you.” So in choosing a soulmate, you would want to be very careful; you would not want to dabble in and dabble out of the relationship because you made a mistake in the first place. Finding a soulmate, you would want to look in areas or places you can find the best; someone you would love to remain married to for life. Interestingly, dating apps platform is not one of such places for the following reasons.

ASSUMPTIONS: Though dating apps are exciting innovations with several advantages like helping people to connect for the purpose of considering dating if all went well. They certainly are not the best platforms of finding your soulmate. According to Henry Winkler, “Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” until people meet one on one, they base a lot of their expectations on assumptions. Even when they have the opportunity to meet, many things would be hid or kept in the dark that would become the termites that would destroy the relationship.

TRUST: Dating relationship is a serious business and you would want someone you can talk to, confide in and share your concerns with. You certainly cannot trust the fellow you met via some dating app. A fellow from some dating app is more or less anonymous. He or she is faceless and certainly cannot be trusted. “Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings.” Miles Franklin. Apart from not been able to confide in someone you hardly know from a dating app, another challenge would be ascertaining the fellow’s background. If he is a fugitive, a felon, an alcoholic, drug addict or someone with a serious medical condition, you might not know.

COMPATIBILITY: “When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.” Deepak Chopra. You certainly want to make sure you are compatible with your soulmate. If that is true, dating app cannot be a perfect place for you to find one. “The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.” Stephen R. Covey. Of course there is the argument that you cannot find a partner you are 100% compatible with, and that is true. However, it is important you know the person you are choosing for a soulmate. There must be LIKES and DISLIKES you share in common. For you to know that the fellow is not pretending and he or she is a person you can build a life with, the best platform you would want to choose a soulmate cannot be through some dating app.

One of the dangers of this kind of dating can be watched on one episode of MTV’s Catfish the Show.  Catfish is an American reality-based television series airing on MTV about the truths and lies of online dating. The series is based on the 2010 film Catfish and is co-hosted by Nev Schulman and Max Joseph. Remember that people can hide who they really are behind a screen name.  The reality can be something totally different and sometimes deadly.

Reference:

Dangers of Excessive Screen Time  by Dr. Julian Whitaker.  http://www.drwhitaker.com/dangers-of-excessive-screen-time/