6 Ways To Say Goodbye When You Can't Do It Face-To-Face

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6 Ways To Say Goodbye When You Can't Do It Face-To-Face [EXPERT]
When a traditional ending is no longer possible, there are powerful ways to create your own goodbye.

Healthy endings set us free. They let us get ready for the next relationship, the next job, the next wonderful adventure. Healthy endings don't have ragged edges, devoid of the chance to say what is in our hearts and what we need someone else to hear.

Sometimes loved ones die suddenly or too far away. Jobs can come to a screeching halt without warning. Natural disasters wipe out towns, turning whole lives upside down. Sudden endings happen, leaving us with words unsaid and unheard. How To Help A Partner Grieve

Here are six ways that you can make your goodbye real and give you a healthier ending. The words will be said, the actions taken and they will set the stage for your new beginning.

1. Create a quiet space for yourself and write a letter expressing all the love, the important statements, the unanswered questions and the big ideas that you wanted heard. Then, in your quiet space, read your letter out loud. Listen to your voice and pay attention to your body as you read this important message. As you honor your words, respect for their message will settle around you and you will find some peace.

2. When my husband fell from a ladder at our home and died, the saddest place in my world was the bit of concrete that took his life. A most profound and powerful part of my goodbye happened when a friend offered to come to our home and bless the place where he died. We lit candles, played music, remembered the good times in that place and embraced the beauty around it.

From that time on, I was free to walk out that door, down the walk and into the rest of the yard. What can you do that will help you transform the place of tragedy and let you move freely around it? Who will join you? When you take deliberate and loving actions in response to the sadness, it loses the power to hold you hostage. How To Date Again After Losing A Husband

3. If you have lost your job and were given no time to tell co-workers or even the place goodbye, take time to make contact with those former co-workers. Write them e-mails and tell them how much you valued knowing them, what you most remember about them and that you wish them well. You may even want to meet the most special ones for coffee or a drink after work as a way of celebrating your friendship and finally getting to say goodbye.

4. Plant a tree in the spring or bulbs in the fall. Do something today that will be part of your future in a beautiful way. When you want to feel connection to what was lost, go and sit by your tree. When you need some hope, watch the tiny green shoots coming up where you planted the bulbs. They will remind you that the world also has beauty and you helped bring some of it into your life.

5. Create some kind of sacred place in your home where you can honor what or who was lost. You can adorn it with flowers or put items there that bring a smile to your face. It will signal to you that what you lost was real and won’t be forgotten.

6. Remember that, most likely, other people were affected by the sudden loss as well. Reach out to them. Send them a card, write them a note, give them a phone call, invite them to your tree or be the listening ears for the words they need to say. 8 Tips To Help Console A Grieving Friend

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