Sex Addiction Behavior Types
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Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC
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SEXUAL ADDICTION BEHAVIORAL TYPES
As you will see, sex addiction comes in many forms and types. Anything from the lone web surfer who spends 5 hours a night looking at pornography, to the patron of a prostitute, to the exhibitionist (man in the raincoat), the voyeur, and others. This information is based primariliy on the work of Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.
1. Fantasy Sex – Sexually charged fantasies, relationships, and situations
• “Sex in the head” – arousal depends on sexual possibility
• The fantasy is preferred over sex
• Fantasies can be all-consuming
• Rarely is sex the goal (unless it’s necessary to control an outcome)
2. Seductive Role Sex – Seduction of partners
• Being sexual without being truthful about intentions
• Arousal is based on conquest
• Arousal diminishes after initial contact
• Seduction equals power and control
• Can results in multiple relationships, affairs and/or serial relationships
3. Anonymous Sex – High-risk sex with unknown persons
• Arousal involves no seduction or costs and is immediate
• Cruising, one-night stands, public baths, peep shows, Craigslist ads, etc.
• No emotional connection
4. Paying for Sex – Purchasing of sexual services
• Arousal is connected to payment of sex
• With time, the arousal is connected to money itself
• Prostitution, phone sex, sexual massages
5. Trading for Sex – Selling or bartering sex for power
• Arousal is based on gaining control of others by using sex as leverage
• Receiving money or drugs for sex
* Making explicit movies/videos, stripping, pimping, and/or drugs for sex
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6. Voyeuristic Sex - Visual Arousal
• The use of visual stimulation to escape into an obsessive trance
• Secretive looking or “peeping” to obtain sexual gratification
• Use of pornographic photos, magazines, computer and/or videos to obtain a fix
7. Exhibitionistic Sex – Attracting attention to the body or sexual parts of the body
• Sexual arousal stems from the viewer’s reaction, whether it is shock or interest
• Exposing oneself to obtain sexual gratification and/or power
• Exposing oneself in public places, at home, in a car
• Wearing clothes designed to expose and titillate
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