The plight of magnetically connected lovers (The Human Magnet Syndrome) is another metaphorical explanation of the unconscious appeal that brings opposite, but compatible, companions together into an enduring and stable relationship. Although much simpler and less comprehensive than the Continuum of Self Theory, it follows the same basic tenant that two prospective romantic partners are attracted to each other as a result of their opposite, but well matched, and compatible personality types. While the Continuum of Self focuses on a person’s self-orientation or Continuum of Self Values (CSV’s), the Human Magnet Syndrome conceptualizes the attraction dynamics though the use of a metaphorical compass and magnets, both of which are oriented toward one of two magnetic poles, or as I refer to them, magnetic roles. As Human Magnets, we are pulled toward a romantic particular partner whose magnetic polarity is contrary to ours.
Despite our efforts to a find a romantic partner who unconditionally loves respects and cares for us and participates in a mutual and reciprocal relationship, we are inclined to follow a metaphorical love compass that will instinctively direct our relationship choices. Whether we realize it or not, we all use this compass when we seek an ideal romantic partner. We are obliged to follow the direction in which we are lead, regardless of our conscious intentions to take a different route. Even with our promises to or selves to make rational, safe and healthy choices, we are unable to resist the captivating pull toward the direction that our compass points. Star-crossed lovers are, therefore, inevitably brought together not because of their conscious choices, but rather because they followed their metaphorical compass into each other’s loving embrace.\
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC,CADC
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