So how do you allow yourself to be vulnerable and authentic, when you feel like a confused, angry pile of insecurities?
You do it by sharing your feelings without making him responsible to fix them for you.
The next time you’re tempted to tell a man what to do or tell him what you think — stop yourself.
Go with what’s going on inside you. Feel your heart beat, your stomach gurgle, your chest tighten because you’re frustrated.
Feel yourself getting giddy or anxious because you don’t know what to say.
Feel the most concrete, real, simple thing you can, and communicate that. Say “I’m really sad right now,” rather than “I think you spend too much time at work.”
This kind of authenticity is the missing piece that we never learned as children. We learned how to get along, how to influence others, how to look and do good, but we never learned how to even make contact with what we really feel—much less ever say it simply and without judgment and criticism.
A woman who can say what she feels—simply, directly, passionately, and with energy and conviction—will find her man opening up to her in ways she never imagined.
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