Turning Your Dreams Into Action

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Turning Your Dreams Into Action
Whether you need a kick in the pants or gentle encouragement, success begins with your dream!

How often have you heard, "You can do anything you set your mind to!"

Things have changed.

From "What do you want to be when you grow up?" we've come to, "Just be grateful if you have a job."

Teenagers are watching adults flounder, and their dreams are slipping away into apathy. And adults have often given up on their dreams entirely and now just hope to survive.

According to one study last year, nearly a quarter of today’s teens aspire to work in healthcare whether or not they have particular talent in the sciences, simply as a job security factor. Yesterday’s teen girls, for instance, dreamed of creating a family with a successful husband; today’s girls are thinking education and career first, then maybe family later. Yesterday’s teen boys often dreamed of being a sports star, driving a fancy car, and making boatloads of money as an engineer or architect. Today’s boys more often simply hope they can get enough financial aid to get through college and hope not to join the lines of the unemployed.

What has happened to your teenager’s dreams? What happened to yours?

One factor affecting teen’s dreams is that they’re simply taking longer to reach maturity, while struggling with some degree of “growing up too fast”. According to a marvelous article by Po Bronson at Newsweek, society has created an entire generation of protected young people – they’ve been protected from life, sheltered within their own age group, rarely permitted to experience ‘real life’ as in apprenticeships or actual jobs. Then we wonder why teenagers are bored and apathetic and satisfied to endlessly play computer games and hang out with their friends.

What has happened to your teenager’s dreams? What has happened to yours?

A second factor affecting teen’s dreams is the prevalence of an entitlement attitude. As a direct result of a lifetime of hearing the message, “You deserve more/better” without being tied to their actual performance or maturity level, teenagers today are awash in an attitude of entitlement. Have a hard time studying? You must have a disability – you now get special allowances and extra time for assignments and tests. Have a bad attitude, depressed or angry? Your hormones must be out of whack – lets get you on some medication to balance things out. Have nothing better to do than party, experiment with alcohol and marijuana, or play endless computer games? Thats okay – you’ll grow up some day. This entitlement attitude has at its base a great self-centered focus: “What can you do / give to ME? I deserve it just because I’m alive.”

What has happened to your teenager’s dreams? What has happened to yours?

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