There's something fascinating about watching the latest celebrity mom video of Alicia Silverstone pre-chewing her toddler's food and feeding him from her mouth. Whether you were amused or horrified, the video certainly generated a lot of reaction. Help! Three Kids And No Sex Life
While I'm not a medical professional and cannot address risks, I know that the practice of pre-mastication has been around for a long time and has been judged harshly by many who are equally uncomfortable around breastfeeding. As a parenting coach, I hear many stories. One thing that seems common in all parents is the rush to judge anything different.
If you watched the Silverstone video, what was your initial reaction? You may have found yourself thinking, "I would never do that!" People-watching isn't only about celebrities. How many times have you been in a grocery store and watched a mother losing her cool with a grouchy toddler? Have you offered support or been quick to think, "I would never do that!" 6 Things To Do If Your Teenager Terrifies You
When was the last time you sat in a restaurant and became upset that your meal was disturbed by the noisy children a few tables over? How many times have you ranted privately about the poor parenting that's the cause of the latest school shooting or online bullying drama? Like a winter coat to protect yourself from the cold, parents wear judgment of other parents like a shield to protect us from seeing clearly where we might need to improve our own parenting.
Now, hold on. I'm not saying there's nothing annoying about noisy children in restaurants or failed parenting skills that cause children to hurt others. I'm not even saying there's not something just a little disturbing about watching Alicia Silverstone feed her son pre-chewed food from her mouth. It's the judgment aspect I'd like to invite you to take a look at. When have you felt the judgment from other parents? When Fear Says "Stay"