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4 Stress-Free Ways To Be The QUEEN Of Online Dating (Thank Us Later)

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Before jumping into the world of online dating, decide what YOU actually want.

Online dating is a big topic and worthy of a book in and of itself. As far as getting started, there are a few overarching rules that apply to anyone who is dating online.

You might have a system that works for you, but for most people, they're looking for ways to have more fun and less anxiety when making a splash in the online dating pool. Here are four easy ways to be the rev up your online dating skills:

1. Determine Your Objective

Online dating is marketing and you are the brand. So like any astute marketer, you need to first determine your objective. This is a step that will have ramifications for every online date. Think about it. Do you want lots of dates and partners, or a real relationship?

Be fair to yourself and everyone else when considering that. You might ask, "What's wrong with dating a number of prospects until I meet the right person?" Nothing! But it will become a factor with every new person you meet.

2. Find Potential Dates With The SAME Objective

Some people use online dating as an efficient way to fill up their calendar, meet new people, score free dinners, and enjoy what happens after dessert. My point is, if that is what you are looking for, find partners who are share the same mindset.

You can sort that out fairly quickly. And don't be a heartbreaker because there are a lot of sincere people out there looking for "The One."

3. Don't Waste Your Time — You Have A Life Offline, Too

If you are reasonably intelligent and "normal", it's easy to score dates online. There is a bottomless pool of potential partners that is constantly restocked.

But this is your time and your money and your sexual and mental wellbeing, so be mindful of your online dating behavior and avoid getting lost in a sea of endless possibilities.

4. Avoid The "Shiny Object Syndrome"

One of the biggest challenges to online dating is not falling into the pattern of immediately tossing aside potential mates for anything less than perfection because there's always another prospect out there waiting to share a glass of Prosecco with you.  

Deciding what you want before beginning something new sounds like a no-brainer. So does not texting when you are walking up the subway stairs during rush hour.

Put down that iPhone and take a few moments to consider what you really want before texting that new guy back.

This article was originally published at On Life, Love, and the Pursuit of Happiness. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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