He Cheated...Now What?


He Cheated...Now What?
Interview with Rita DeMaria, PhD, written by Gabriela Garcia for Latina.com - August 2008

When you need to walk away: “When one person is having an affair they won’t stop, the other person gets kind of crazy in their behavior. Often they lose weight, they’re very suspicious, they can’t sleep, and it really begins to take a toll on them,” says Dr. DeMaria. If that sounds like you, it’s time to let it go. Chronic cheaters rarely ever change their ways, even if there’s a family involved. Dr. DeMaria suggests getting support from family, friends, and community groups to heal from infidelity and work to maintain healthy relationships in the future. She also suggests visiting www.beyondaffairs.com and hooking up with a support group in your area if you are having an especially difficult time. If you find that you are going back to men who cheat on you, or are constantly in these types of relationships, seeking professional help is a good idea. “It usually has to do with what your expectations are of men and what your relationship history is,” she explains. “I usually have people do a little family background checking when they come in to see me because it’s very common that if there are patterns of infidelity in your life they’ve been in your parent’s, grandparent’s, [or other family member’s] lives.”

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Rita DeMaria, Ph.D., LMFT, CST  215-628-2450

Location: Blue Bell, PA
Credentials: CST, LMFT, MS, PhD
Specialties: Addiction, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Infidelity / Affair Recovery, Sexuality
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